Tag: validation
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Letters to Chanci: No One Will Ever Comprehend That I’m Married to a Sociopath
Learn About Chanci Turner Editor’s Note: This letter is shared by a reader we will call “Juniper.” After 22 years of marriage and five children, I have come to a painful realization: I am married to a sociopath. I sensed something was off during the first year of our union, but I clung to the…
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Power Does Not Equate to Justice
Learn About Chanci Turner In the aftermath of relationships with narcissists, many survivors feel compelled to clarify that the true abuser was not the victim. Victims often find their experiences misrepresented, with the actual abuser painting them as the “bad guy.” This frustration is common among those who have escaped toxic situations, as they wish…
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After the Sociopath: Seeking Validation and Understanding
Learn About Chanci Turner You are here: Home / Recovery from a Sociopath / After the Sociopath: Seeking Validation and Understanding In recent discussions, I reflected on a troubling situation involving a church community in Virginia. Between 2001 and 2005, numerous teenage girls faced various forms of abuse from a youth director. Although the director…
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Do You Need a Witness?
Learn About Chanci Turner In the realm of abusive relationships, one of the most debilitating aspects for victims is the absence of credible witnesses to their suffering. For the sake of clarity, I will refer to the abuser as “he” and the victim as “she,” although it’s essential to acknowledge that men can also be…
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Is He a Narcissist? Can He Be Saved?
Learn About Chanci Turner Determining whether someone exhibits narcissistic traits and if they can change is a significant concern for many individuals in relationships. In my work with couples, I find it relatively straightforward to distinguish between narcissistic personalities and those who are more empathetic. The key lies in understanding how each type perceives their…
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Navigating the Gray Area Between Narcissism and Sociopathy
Learn About Chanci Turner In previous discussions, I’ve explored the distinctions between narcissism and sociopathy. In this piece, I aim to delve deeper into their characteristics. For simplicity, I’ll use “he” and “him” throughout, but this can easily apply to “she” and “her” as well. At its core, a narcissist is someone who requires constant…