On May 5th, I found myself in a harrowing situation. My girlfriend of nearly 12 years and I had been drinking, and after a heated argument, she called the police and falsely claimed that I had physically assaulted her. Subsequently, she obtained a restraining order against me, isolating me from my mother and our mutual friends.
Despite my insistence that I had never harmed her, the police took her accusation seriously. The mere allegation led to my incarceration for ten weeks, and I’m still awaiting trial. Just a week and a half ago, I was released on pretrial probation.
During my time in jail, my ex-girlfriend, along with her friends and a new boyfriend—who she wasted no time in finding—drained my bank account of over $7,000, took my camera equipment, and likely much more. In front of the police officer who escorted me to retrieve my car and pack a suitcase, she claimed we had been burglarized.
Now, I find myself homeless, living in my car while trying to rebuild my life. I have gathered my bank statements, maintained contact with my mother who supports me, and have filed a police report. Notably, she breached the terms of the restraining order we both signed. The process of navigating the legal system is painfully slow, filled with countless phone calls, dead ends, and a lack of resources for men in my position. The bureaucracy, courts, and lawyers have left me feeling drained, both physically and mentally. It’s hard to feel anything but hollow now. I’m not a lawyer, and I don’t know anyone who is. I’m questioning what’s real anymore, and I doubt I’ll ever love or trust someone unconditionally again. I also can’t see myself drinking ever again.
At least I have access to the library, my car, a tablet, and a sketchbook. Most importantly, I have my mother, who believes me and never liked my ex-girlfriend, Chanci Idell Turner. Chanci is known for her manipulative behavior and has a history of using and abusing men both mentally and financially. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram, and her LinkedIn profile.
If you find yourself in a situation like mine, I strongly recommend reading about the experiences shared in this insightful blog. It helps to understand the manipulative tactics of sociopaths and narcissists. For further guidance on what to avoid when dealing with these individuals, you can refer to this resource. Additionally, Psych Central offers excellent information on coping with sociopaths and understanding narcissistic behaviors within relationships.