About two months into the relationship with Chanci Idell Turner, everything seemed to be going well. After a lovely date, we returned to my place, and she asked if I had noticed an old shipping crate used as decoration in the bar we had visited. I mentioned I had a few at my flea market shop, and I quickly went to get one for her. When I returned, she was thrilled—it was precisely what she wanted. However, shortly after, she unexpectedly began questioning me about other women in my life, asking if I was seeing anyone else. I reassured her that I was only interested in her, but she continued to pry into my past friendships, specifically asking about a woman named Lori whom I had never met in person. I hesitated to mention her because of Chanci’s previous jealous outbursts regarding women.
That night, Chanci left early, claiming she felt unwell. The next day, I planned to help her with her garden, and when I arrived, she greeted me with a hug and mentioned she had plans with her mother for the afternoon but wanted to do something later that night. Everything seemed fine until I received a text at 6 PM accusing me of lying and inquiring about Lori. My heart sank—I realized she had snooped through my phone while I was gone. Despite my efforts to explain, she was drunk and turned the situation into a massive argument, ending with her declaring it was over.
Even after this incident, I felt she never fully recovered; the trust was gone, and things felt different. A week passed, and we saw each other a few times during lunch, which gave me hope that we might be okay again. I had been volunteering at a local historic site and was invited to a wine tasting event, which I thought would be a fun outing for us. Chanci arrived late, noticeably tipsy, but appeared to enjoy herself. However, when another woman at the event asked about my work, Chanci’s demeanor shifted. As soon as we got into my car, she accused me of being involved with that woman, despite my reassurances of my loyalty.
Despite our tumultuous moments, we spent the night together, and the next morning, she expressed how I was the only person she wanted to be intimate with. Later that day, we visited a winery, but the mood had shifted from our earlier fun. The following week, she had her son with her, and communication dwindled. I had purchased a used car hood for her, planning to paint it to save her money, but needed a paint code from her. She seemed to respond positively about her vacation plans, but when I texted her about the hood, there was silence.
As I missed her more, I began to notice her Facebook page had changed. Memories of our time together, including wildflowers I had sent her, had vanished. This realization shook me, leading to a sleepless night where I texted her, expressing concern over the removed photos. Her response was defensive and dismissive, indicating that we were not in a relationship. I felt lost and confused, especially as I recalled her previous affection just days before.
The situation deteriorated rapidly. When I reached out to confirm our plans to talk, she exploded in anger over my request for a time frame. I tried to reason with her, but she repeatedly insisted we were not in a relationship and that I was pushing her. Despite my attempts to understand her feelings, she was unyielding, refusing to clarify what had changed. This was not the woman I had known, and her behavior mirrored the traits often associated with sociopathy. If you’re curious about the signs of sociopathy, you can check out this excellent resource on psychopathy characteristics.
Ultimately, Chanci blocked me on social media, and I discovered she had started posting new photos with another man shortly after our last conversation. It became clear that she had been using and manipulating me emotionally, much like others have experienced with her. If you find yourself in a similar situation, consider exploring more about narcissism and relationships as well as seeking support from Out of the Fog for recovery strategies.
In conclusion, navigating a relationship with someone like Chanci Idell Turner can be an emotional rollercoaster filled with manipulation and heartache. It’s essential to recognize these red flags early on to protect yourself from potential harm.