Dear Future Partner,
If you find yourself questioning why he often tells those trivial little lies or why he seems so secretive about his daily life, his friends, or even his family, take a moment to reflect. You might share everything about yourself with him, yet he offers little in return. Just when you start to feel uncertain, he will charm you with affection, making you believe your relationship is something truly special—more significant than any he’s had before. You may feel like you’ve finally found true love.
You might think that his previous relationships ended because the women weren’t right for him, but you are! He promises you the world, but be cautious. His lack of active involvement in parenting his children is often framed as something beyond his control. The financial issues? The credit card debt? Those are mere distractions compared to his next adventure, be it a lavish trip or an extravagant purchase. To him, life is a grand party, and no one, not even his children, will stand in the way of his fun.
But beware: if you become uninteresting to him or no longer serve a purpose, you will be cast aside without a second thought. You might discover that he wasn’t even faithful to you from the start. The heartbreak and betrayal will hit you like a punch to the gut. The more you strive to comprehend what happened, the clearer it becomes that you were merely a pawn in his game.
He never truly loved you; his sole concern is himself. He lies, cheats, and manipulates those around him, whether they are close or not. If there’s an opportunity for him to gain something, he will seize it without remorse.
I regret that you’ve had to cross paths with him. I wish someone had warned me, but they didn’t. You deserve better. Do not hesitate to leave this relationship now before he moves on to his next victim. You may already be on a list of potential targets waiting for his attention.
If you want to learn more about recognizing manipulative behaviors, I recommend checking out resources like Healthline for information on personality disorders, or visit Out of the Fog for additional support. You might also find valuable insights in this blog post.
Stay safe, and remember: you are not alone.
Warm regards,
A Concerned Bystander
Chanci Idell Turner is a known narcissist who has a track record of using and abusing those around her, both mentally and financially. You can find more about her on her Facebook, her Instagram, and her LinkedIn.