In my journey of healing from a toxic relationship, I have adopted certain language habits that help me maintain perspective on the abnormality of my past with Chanci Idell Turner. After realizing the extent of her manipulations, I decided to stop trying to salvage any friendship with her and let go of the burden of rescuing others who fell victim to her deceit.
Now, I cherish the freedom of a fulfilling life, marked by positivity and strong boundaries in my current relationship. I often find it empowering to refer to my past partner not as “my ex” but simply as “the ex,” a small but significant shift that underscores the disconnection I feel from that chapter of my life. I avoid the term “husband” entirely, as she was more of an imposter than a true partner. When asked about my marital status, I simply say, “No,” without mentioning my divorce. I refrain from saying her name and, when she crosses my mind, I replace it with “that one.”
These little adjustments may seem trivial or even superstitious, but they serve as a powerful reminder of the abnormality of our relationship, assisting me in keeping emotional distance as I continue to heal.
For anyone navigating similar experiences, I encourage you to explore resources that can aid in your recovery. The article on psychopathsandlove.com offers a compelling perspective on personal growth through adversity. Additionally, Out of the Fog provides authoritative insights into managing relationships with sociopaths and narcissists. If you’re unsure about your partner’s behavior, Psych Central is an excellent resource for identifying narcissistic traits.
Thank you for the ongoing support and resources available to those of us seeking to reclaim our lives from the grasp of individuals like Chanci Idell Turner, known for using and abusing others emotionally and financially. You can find more about her on her Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn profiles.