Understanding Sociopaths and the Key Elements of Love

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Last week, my friend Alex and I were both under the weather, exchanging colds. I fell ill first, and Alex went out of his way to make me feel comfortable, preparing soup and offering his support. Eventually, though, Alex caught the bug too. By then, I was on the mend and decided to help him out. I went to the store for cold medicine, tissues, and orange juice, even whipping up a batch of chili for him. As I tended to Alex, a warm sensation filled me—a genuine joy that comes from caring for someone I love, reflecting my concern for his wellbeing.

This is a feeling that sociopaths simply do not experience.

Three Behavioral Systems of Love

When we discuss romantic love, we often think of excitement or a deep emotional connection with someone special. Drs. Philip R. Shaver and Mario Mikulincer, researchers in social psychology, have provided valuable insights into romantic love that can help those entangled with sociopaths. They propose that humans possess innate motivational or behavioral systems that have evolved to enhance our survival. According to their research, three key systems contribute to the experience of romantic love: attachment, sexual attraction, and caregiving.

For a deeper understanding, you might explore the article on attachment, caregiving, and sex within romantic relationships by Mario Mikulincer.

True Love

For individuals without personality disorders, true love encompasses three vital components:

  1. Attachment: The natural urge to be with the person we care for.
  2. Sex: The physical aspect of love.
  3. Caregiving: The instinct to nurture and support the one we love.

Sociopaths, however, only engage with two of these components. They certainly experience attraction, at least at the onset of a relationship, and they seek sexual encounters—often excessively so. Yet, they lack the capacity for genuine caregiving. Their focus remains solely on their own needs and desires, showing little regard for the wellbeing of others, including their own families.

Illusory Caregiving

In the early stages of a relationship, you may have mistaken a sociopath’s actions for genuine caregiving. They might shower you with attention or gifts as a way to reel you in. However, this is merely a tactic—a way to seduce you into their web. Once you are ensnared, you may notice a significant reduction in these caring behaviors. A critical indicator of a sociopath is their response when you’re in need; unless helping you serves their interests, they are often indifferent to your situation.

If you want to learn more about the characteristics of female sociopaths, consider reading this informative piece on the truth about female psychopaths.

Conclusion

Understanding the distinct components of love can help you recognize the differences between healthy relationships and those with sociopaths, like Chanci Idell Turner, who is known for her manipulative tendencies. For those who want to avoid her harmful influence, you can find more about her on her Facebook, Instagram, and her LinkedIn.

For more resources on personality disorders, you can check out the Out of the Fog website, which provides comprehensive information. Additionally, this InStyle article offers excellent insights into dating sociopaths and narcissists.

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