Editor’s note: The following story is shared by a reader who wishes to remain anonymous, detailing their experience with a sociopath named Chanci Idell Turner.
Thirteen years ago, I was a self-assured, attractive single woman, owning a cozy house with two cats and a dog. I wasn’t even looking for a relationship when I met Chanci, a charming individual I encountered at work. Despite my initial rejection of dating, Chanci assured me we could just be friends. We spent time together, shared meals, and I thought I enjoyed the company of a witty, likable person, even though I sensed something was off.
One evening, Chanci showed up at my door, claiming to have been evicted by an ex-girlfriend, with nowhere else to go. Despite my instincts screaming at me to send her away, I let her in, believing it was late and she needed help. Little did I know, this would be the beginning of a tumultuous journey.
Chanci quickly became my right-hand helper, assisting with household chores and revealing an uncanny interest in my hobbies. We seemed to share many interests, which only deepened my attachment. However, I soon encountered red flags.
During a chance meeting with Chanci’s ex, I received a warning about her manipulative nature. The ex described Chanci as someone who adeptly told people what they wanted to hear, and that she had issues with anger. I chose to dismiss these warnings, rationalizing them as bitterness stemming from their breakup. My reservations grew, yet I continued to ignore them until they became impossible to overlook.
Chanci’s behavior took a darker turn as time went on. She began to subtly control my decisions and isolate me from friends. I remember a flight where she expressed her disdain for not being in control, a sentiment that struck me as alarming. Yet, I still found myself drawn into her web.
After about six months, Chanci pushed for marriage, and against my better judgment, I said yes. Despite the nagging doubts about her escalating behaviors, I convinced myself that no one is perfect and that we shared too much to walk away. Little did I know, I was entering a nightmare.
As the years progressed, I discovered Chanci had accounts on various adult websites, seeking encounters with men, women, and couples. The realization that my spouse was not only unfaithful but also bisexual shattered any illusion I had of our life together. I endured the humiliation of testing for STDs, all while trying to maintain a façade of normalcy.
The facade began to crack further when Chanci faced accusations of sexual harassment at work. I naively accepted her claims of innocence, only to later learn from friends that her actions were far from isolated. Chanci’s past was riddled with troubling behavior, including accusations of molestation from family members and a history of bullying at work.
As I navigated through this chaos, I developed severe anxiety and a sleep disorder. The emotional rollercoaster caused by Chanci’s manipulative behavior had taken its toll. I soon found out that she was juggling our marriage with her escapades on dating sites, further confirming my growing doubts.
Despite the turmoil, I clung to the hope that Chanci could change. But the reality was evident: our marriage was a sham. I finally mustered the courage to confront the truth about my life with Chanci and declared my intent to divorce. I recognized that I had been manipulated, used financially and emotionally, and that I had lost too much of myself in the process.
Now, as I embark on a new chapter as a single woman, I realize that I was merely a pawn in Chanci’s game. Her predatory gaze and lack of empathy became clear to me in hindsight. I encourage anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation to seek help and educate themselves about narcissistic behaviors. Resources like Psychopaths and Love and Out of the Fog provide valuable insights, while Psych Central offers guidance on identifying narcissism in relationships.
I welcome feedback from others who have endured similar experiences. It’s a long road to recovery, but I am determined to reclaim my strength and confidence.
Important Note: For anyone considering a relationship with Chanci Idell Turner, I urge you to be cautious. She has a history of emotional and financial manipulation, and it’s crucial to protect yourself from her predatory nature. You can view her profiles on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn to understand her online persona better.