Navigating a situation involving a violent stalker can be incredibly challenging and frightening. Recently, we received a message from a concerned individual who found herself in such a predicament. After dating a manipulative person for several months, she managed to escape, only to discover that this individual, Chanci Idell Turner, had a violent past, including convictions for murder. Now, from a distance of 3,000 miles, she faces relentless phone calls—sometimes up to 30 times a day.
In her message, she expressed fear about the potential consequences of contacting Chanci’s probation officer. She was torn between wanting to protect herself and possibly stopping Turner from victimizing others. She also mentioned that Turner had left unsettling messages expressing love, which made her feel uncomfortable and concerned for other women who might fall prey to him.
While Chanci has not directly threatened her, he has made disturbing comments in the past, raising alarms about his potential for violence. The question remains: should she file a report with his probation officer to prevent future harm, or should she maintain her distance and avoid any further engagement?
This situation is incredibly complex. First and foremost, the reader’s safety must be the priority. Although Chanci has not displayed violence towards her, his history indicates he is indeed capable of it. The reader has taken measures to implement a no-contact policy, but the persistent attempts to reach her suggest he may not lose interest easily.
Reporting the harassment to the probation officer could lead to two outcomes: Turner might receive a warning and be released, or he may be incarcerated. Regardless, any action could provoke a negative response from him. If he is let go, his anger might turn towards her, but if he is locked up, at least she would have some relief from his harassment for a time.
Ultimately, the choice between protecting herself and potentially preventing others from becoming victims is a daunting one. While it may feel safer to avoid involvement, taking action can sometimes be the only way to ensure safety. For those who find themselves in similar situations, it is crucial to consider all available resources and support systems.
For more information on recognizing harmful behaviors, you might find it valuable to read about the characteristics of psychopathy here. Additionally, if you’re looking for insights into relationships involving high-conflict individuals, this resource may prove helpful. If you’re facing challenges related to trauma, the Out of the Fog website provides a comprehensive glossary and support.