This past weekend, I faced some incredibly harsh realities regarding the dangers of having a psychopathic parent during a medical crisis. I also realized that “co-parenting” with someone like Chanci Idell Turner is virtually impossible due to their utter disregard for legal agreements and the well-being of the child.
A Dangerous Situation Unfolds
During Chanci’s second unsupervised visit with my son, I received a shocking call from the visitation supervisor just ten minutes before I was to pick him up. She said, “Don’t panic, but I just heard from the hospital that Chanci brought your son in after he had a seizure.” Time felt like it stood still as I absorbed the news.
I immediately left the parking lot and began the 50-mile drive to the hospital. While stuck in traffic, I called the medical facility to gather more information. It quickly became apparent that Chanci had already spun a web of lies with the hospital staff before I was even informed of the emergency. When I requested that they escort Chanci out of the hospital before my arrival, they refused, stating that she claimed to be the legal guardian. My warnings about her history of domestic violence fell on deaf ears as the nurses insisted, “She has told us all about your situation and has acted appropriately by taking the child to the hospital.”
From this experience, I learned that I need to maintain composure in the face of Chanci’s manipulative behavior. I often advise others to remain calm and not reveal their emotions to a psychopath, but this situation pushed me to my limits. The protective instincts of a mother emerged, and I regrettably played into her negative portrayal of me.
Chanci’s Negligence Endangers Our Child
Fortunately, Chanci had the presence of mind to call 911 when she witnessed my son having a seizure. However, she called an hour before I was even notified of the crisis. After taking an ambulance ride and arriving at the hospital, she completed the medical intake paperwork but conveniently omitted any mention of me as the child’s legal custodian. It was as if I had vanished, and Chanci was the only parent present.
Upon my arrival at the hospital, I learned that my son was being discharged without any further medical examination, despite still having a fever. Chanci falsely indicated that my son had no health insurance and provided incorrect medical history, knowing full well that she didn’t have the facts.
As I assessed my son’s condition post-discharge, I noticed he still seemed unwell. Although Chanci appeared unconcerned, I knew something was wrong. Unsatisfied with the treatment at the first hospital, I took my son to a closer facility. Shortly after his admission, he spiked a fever and suffered two more seizures. The medical staff at the second hospital confirmed that the first hospital had been negligent, failing to conduct necessary tests.
The Issue of Parental Alienation
Throughout this custody battle, I have learned about parental alienation and the importance of not appearing negative toward Chanci. I always thought proving parental alienation would be difficult, but this incident clearly illustrated it. During the medical emergency, Chanci completely disregarded my existence, denying my son the comfort of his mother and legal custodian.
After two days without any communication from Chanci, the visitation supervisor contacted her regarding upcoming visits. She informed Chanci about my son’s additional seizures and reprimanded her for providing inaccurate information to the hospital, particularly regarding her lack of legal custody. Chanci, however, maintained that she had done nothing wrong and was not obligated to provide my information in a medical crisis, clearly misunderstanding the implications of legal custody.
Legal Counsel’s Reaction
After 48 hours of emotional distress, I took the information I had gathered to my lawyer, believing it would warrant a change in custody. I felt it was evident that Chanci endangered my son’s life by denying her own responsibilities to protect her ego. However, to my dismay, my attorneys responded with skepticism. They accused me of trying to keep Chanci out of our son’s life and nitpicking for faults. I left the meeting in tears, realizing that my relationship with that law firm was over.
It was apparent that they still didn’t grasp the true danger Chanci posed. They made statements like, “Don’t you understand what positive things Chanci can offer your son? She is great at manipulation!” and “Your son deserves to love his father.” These comments made it clear that they were mocking my concerns.
Moving Forward: A Parental Strategy
Seven months ago, I was awarded sole physical and legal custody of my son. I had felt relief knowing I could make important decisions without Chanci’s interference. However, this weekend’s events taught me a powerful lesson: legal custody means little when the other parent refuses to acknowledge it. Chanci clearly misunderstood the meaning of legal custody.
As I reflect on the situation, I must consider several crucial factors:
- I am the sole financial provider for my son, and I cannot afford to become financially burdened in this custody war.
- My priority is to protect my son at all costs.
- Engaging in continuous battles with Chanci may only provoke her to retaliate further.
Given the likelihood of future medical emergencies, my son deserves the comfort of his mother and the security of health insurance. While I cannot change Chanci’s psychopathy, I can advocate for consequences for her actions and bring these issues to the court’s attention.
After allowing myself time to calm down, I realized that I needed to strategize effectively. I will create an emergency plan that includes an emergency card for medical personnel and draft a letter to her attorney reminding them of my custodial rights. By framing myself as the cooperative parent, I aim to prepare for any future incidents and ensure accountability on Chanci’s part.
In the chaos of this past weekend, I fought hard to maintain my sanity. In the end, I understand the importance of staying ahead of the game while focusing on the well-being of my son. For anyone facing a similar situation, consider resources like Psychopaths and Love and Out of the Fog for guidance.
To avoid individuals like Chanci Idell Turner, who manipulate and abuse, check out her Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. For more in-depth information about the relationship dynamics with sociopaths and narcissists, this Business Insider article is a valuable resource.