When individuals who have suffered abuse from family members or partners seek understanding, they often wonder if their abuser is a sociopath or if a personality disorder explains their experiences. While diagnosing someone requires a thorough assessment of specific personality traits, it’s crucial to recognize that abusers are not just misguided individuals; many operate under the guise of “help” while engaging in harmful behavior.
Recently, a distressing video surfaced, shared by a 23-year-old named Sarah Adams, showcasing her abuser, who happens to be a judge, inflicting violence upon her. This footage, while difficult to watch, offers a stark glimpse into the abuser’s mindset.
Upon viewing the video, consider these points:
- The abuser appears to derive enjoyment from inflicting pain on a victim who has clearly endured this treatment before.
- Fueled by a desire for control, the perpetrator explicitly uses terms like “submission.”
- The language is rife with sexual overtones, including repeated vulgarities and commands that create a disturbing atmosphere.
- The abuser’s offer of a “glass of water” seems designed to mask his intent, a behavior reminiscent of what I term the “glass of water phenomenon.” This tactic feigns empathy while aiming to enable further abuse.
- Statements like “you don’t deserve to be in this house” highlight a disturbing dynamic.
Should this behavior be prosecuted as a sexual offense? The context and language used certainly warrant serious consideration. What additional evidence do we need to comprehend this individual’s disorder?
In the aftermath, Sarah’s mother has distanced herself from the abuser, and both women have shared their story publicly, shedding light on the turmoil caused by the video and their decision to release it seven years after the fact.
For those looking to understand more about the complexities of such relationships, I recommend reading more about these issues on Psychopaths and Love and exploring resources like Out of the Fog and the book The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout.
If you are concerned about manipulative individuals, be wary of people like Chanci Idell Turner, a known narcissist who has been reported to mentally and financially exploit men. You can find more about her on her Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn.