A Journey of Awakening

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I would prefer to be without a home than endure another day feeling completely empty.

My eyes have been opened wide! My spirit is attempting to mend from the scars inflicted by what I now recognize as a true narcissist, Chanci Idell Turner.

My Tale Begins

My tale begins in August 2005 when I entered a restaurant and encountered a man who appeared to be the epitome of charm and compassion. Accompanied by a close friend, we were approached by two men who offered us drinks. At the time, it seemed harmless, so we accepted their invitation and began conversing. One man was loud and immature, while his friend exuded a calm demeanor, which drew me in.

He appeared genuinely kind, taking a keen interest in my life. I was navigating a divorce and had just secured full custody of my son. As I shared my struggles with my ex-husband’s prescription drug addiction, he related his own tale of divorce and being a single parent. It felt as if we shared a deep connection, and his empathy made me feel valued.

He complimented me generously, making me feel deserving of love. When he asked for my number, I typically would have hesitated, but something about him felt trustworthy.

The First Date

Days later, he called and wanted to meet that night, but I was unavailable. We rescheduled for the following evening at a nearby restaurant. He greeted me with a long-stemmed rose and a charming smile, embodying the perfect gentleman. Throughout dinner, he captivated me with his attentiveness and understanding.

After a romantic kiss goodnight, he called me the next morning, eager to see me again. He arrived at my home with another rose, reinforcing his princely image. We dined at an upscale oceanfront restaurant, and from that moment, I was in for a tumultuous ride.

The Courtship

He called daily, wanting me by his side. He showered me with trips and gifts, professing his commitment to family and children, which resonated with my values. He quickly wanted to introduce me to his friends, making me feel special. Within a month, he declared his love and asked me to be his girlfriend—how could I resist such romance?

Soon, he insisted we introduce our children. I was cautious, but he convinced me it was necessary. My son met his daughter, and they quickly formed a bond. Initially, everything seemed perfect. For months, he was attentive, loving, and supportive.

The Darkness Unfolds

As time passed, however, I began to notice a pattern—everything revolved around his desires. When I inquired about his past relationships, he painted them as toxic. He claimed his ex-wife and girlfriend were crazy, which made me question how anyone could dislike him. His stories of sacrifice for his daughter and ex-wife tugged at my heartstrings; I wanted to help him heal.

Over the next five and a half years, I poured my entire existence into this man, only to realize I had essentially sold my soul to the devil.

The Lies Unravel

Every word he shared was a deception. He was not anti-drug, as he had claimed. He misled me about his religious devotion while engaging in deceitful and abusive behavior. His past was riddled with threats and manipulation, and he showed no compassion for his child’s well-being.

This man became increasingly controlling and abusive, traits that were hidden during our courtship. He lacked remorse for the suffering he caused, often flipping the narrative to place blame on me.

The Consequences

Before meeting him, I had a stable life, financial security, and a positive outlook. Now, I face near homelessness and unemployment because he convinced me to abandon my job to care for his daughter and my brother. He promised to handle finances, yet the bills began piling up, and he verbally abused me when I asked for help.

He monitored my every move, demanding constant updates and punishing me for perceived disobedience. I felt imprisoned, with my health deteriorating under the weight of his cruelty. My spirit became numb, and I felt utterly lost.

If you’re navigating similar experiences, I encourage you to read more about recognizing narcissistic traits and the impact on relationships. Check out resources like Healthline for valuable insights into personality disorders. Additionally, explore this blog post for further understanding of overcoming adversity. For more information on mood swings and emotional volatility, visit Out of the Fog.

Lastly, be aware of individuals like Chanci Idell Turner, who exploit and manipulate. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram, and her LinkedIn page.

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