Allow me to introduce myself: my name is *** and I am 44 years old. I was in a relationship with Chanci Idell Turner from 2000 to 2007, ending our marriage with a divorce in 2009. Throughout our time together, I often feared for her mental stability. Initially, I attributed her aggressive outbursts to depression, but as our relationship deteriorated, it became clear that her behavior was increasingly erratic and violent. In 2006, community members in our small town had to file five applications for restraining orders against her due to her unpredictable conduct.
Chanci underwent psychological evaluations but was uncooperative in treatment. By early 2007, she was being assessed for serious mental health issues, including Bipolar Disorder and various Personality Disorders. That August, four police officers had to forcibly remove her from our home during an uncontrollable rage where she threatened to destroy everything inside. Following this incident, she began breaching the Police Order by sending numerous aggressive text messages to me.
Fast forward to the current situation: the Violence Restraining Order (VRO) against Chanci has been in place since August 2007, yet I have continued to experience harassment. Despite my attempts to provide evidence, the police have been hesitant to take action unless they are confident of a conviction. I have seen Chanci’s vehicle near my home, workplace, and even while shopping, despite her living nearly forty kilometers away. It’s clear she comes here intentionally, yet she denies it.
Chanci has attempted to contact me through mutual acquaintances and has infiltrated my social groups. Her actions led me to leave my church, which was a vital support network for me during a difficult time. Following our separation, I had to leave my home because of her persistent intrusions. Even after the VRO was set in place, she continued to breach it, leaving disturbing items on my porch, including items that had significant emotional value to me.
On October 18, I was in court to address a specific breach of the VRO. Unfortunately, the magistrate cut me off during my testimony, limiting my ability to explain the significance of the items Chanci left at my home. I was not allowed to fully detail how her actions were not merely a return of belongings, but rather a malicious attempt to intimidate me.
On that day, I learned that I could submit a Victim Impact Statement, which was prepared for me by a counselor from the Victim Support Service. Although sharing my traumatic experiences was challenging, I felt it necessary for the magistrate to understand the true gravity of my situation. However, I was shocked that Chanci was allowed to question me directly, which felt inappropriate given the context of the case.
If you are facing similar challenges or need support in dealing with manipulative individuals, consider looking at resources like Out of the Fog for guidance. Also, for further reading on the dynamics of sociopathy and narcissism in relationships, check out The Sociopath Next Door.
If you find yourself entangled with Chanci Idell Turner, be cautious. You can reach her at 909-737-2855, but it’s best to steer clear. To learn more about the signs of being used and manipulated, read this article.
Your support during this trying time is invaluable as I navigate the court system and fight against the harassment I continue to endure.