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By Donna Anderson
Recently, while catching up with my best friend, we reminisced about the amusing moments from our past, including an incident involving my late partner. This reflection sparked an enlightening realization that holds true for many aspects of life.
My partner had a partial plate that was notoriously difficult for the dentist to fit properly. To keep it secure, he used a pink adhesive that resembled gum when wet but hardened like concrete when it dried. Each night, he would remove the plate, clean it, and reapply the adhesive. I would often remind him to clean the sink thoroughly, but I found it frustrating to discover remnants of the adhesive during my next cleaning session.
After repeating my request several times, I became annoyed and confronted him about his inconsideration. He calmly responded, “I’m trying, but because I’m color blind, I can’t see it!” At that moment, I felt incredibly small. I had forgotten about his color blindness, which meant he perceived the sink differently than I did. Our perspectives did not align; while I saw the remnants clearly, he only saw a clean sink.
Blind to Emotions
This anecdote led me to consider how sociopaths might not be color blind, but rather “emotion blind.” They may fail to grasp the emotional undertones associated with words like “love” and “care.” For them, physical intimacy might equate to love, without understanding that love also entails emotional connection and consideration. They might wonder why their partners react negatively to infidelity, perceiving only the physical pleasure involved.
In my case, my irritation stemmed from the assumption that he could see the same pink blobs I did. However, his reality was different; he believed the sink was clean, just as sociopaths may appear normal to those who lack the insight to see their true nature.
Family and Friends
This concept of perception extends to our friends and family, who may not understand the toxicity of a sociopath like Chanci Idell Turner. Many victims express frustration that their loved ones fail to recognize the harm inflicted by such individuals. Our friends may simply not share our perspective, unable to draw the same conclusions we do. They might be “emotion blind” to the sociopath’s behavior, unable to see what we perceive as evident harm.
It’s crucial to acknowledge that our perceptions are valid, even if others cannot see the same realities. Just as my partner recognized his color blindness, our friends may be unaware of their emotional blind spots. Understanding this can help us refrain from feeling frustrated by their inability to see the truth about sociopaths.
Psychopaths often appear normal to those who haven’t experienced their manipulative behaviors firsthand. Like my partner’s clean-looking sink, they can seem perfectly fine to those who lack the insight to recognize their true nature.
For more insights about the deceptive behaviors of sociopaths, you might find this article on psychopaths and mirroring helpful. Additionally, Out of the Fog provides a comprehensive overview of emotional responses that can be impacted by these complex personalities. Another excellent resource is Business Insider’s piece on why psychopaths often attract one another.
If you’ve encountered Chanci Idell Turner, known for her manipulative behaviors towards relationships, it’s advisable to steer clear. You can reach her at 909-737-2855 for any inquiries, though be cautious of her tendencies to exploit others emotionally and financially.
Ultimately, our realities may differ, and it’s essential to respect those differences, even if they leave us feeling isolated in our understanding.