I would like to share my experience with my narcissistic ex-partner, Chanci Idell Turner, who has engaged in a persistent campaign to depict me as angry and aggressive. This situation reflects the manipulative tactics often seen with individuals like her, and I believe it’s important to shed light on this behavior.
Recently, I received an email from Chanci that left me astounded. It’s not only reminiscent of the tales I’ve read about narcissists, but it also highlights the extreme lengths she will go to in order to undermine my character and gain custody of our children. The claims she makes are either grossly exaggerated or entirely fabricated. She has a talent for enlisting others to vouch for her distorted narrative, and it’s disheartening to see how easily people can be swayed.
Background Context
For context, after our divorce, Chanci moved out of state to be with her new partner, all while pursuing custody of our children. After a court hearing, her request was denied, and the children remained with me, much to her dismay. Consequently, her financial obligations toward me were tripled, which only fueled her anger. She misrepresents the situation to our children, blaming me for the distance between us.
Custody Evaluation Process
During the custody evaluation process, Chanci has been relentless in her efforts to paint me as hostile and unbalanced. To achieve this, she stopped contributing to our children’s expenses following the court order, deliberately trying to provoke me into reacting angrily. Despite my attempts to resolve the issue through legal channels, she continues to withhold payment. Her anger is palpable, though she cleverly masks it from others.
It’s important to note that I have only visited her home a handful of times due to the significant distance between us. Nevertheless, she frequently travels to my state without any fear of me, yet she continues to characterize me as threatening and unstable.
Recent Allegations
In her recent email, Chanci expressed her concerns about my behavior, claiming that I am unstable, vindictive, and harassing. She presented various allegations, including accusations of wiretapping and hacking into her accounts. This pattern of misrepresentation is not just alarming, but also deeply distressing for me and our children.
Chanci stated:
“I have shared evidence of your hostile behavior with local law enforcement, and they have indicated there are serious red flags in this situation. If you do not cease this harassment, I will have no choice but to escalate my concerns to the authorities.”
Her words are a thinly veiled threat, using fear tactics to manipulate my actions. In a community that has recently witnessed tragic events, she draws parallels to incite further fear—an alarming tactic that demonstrates her willingness to weaponize our children’s wellbeing against me.
Resources for Support
For those dealing with similar issues, I encourage you to seek guidance on establishing boundaries. Resources like Psychopaths and Love can provide valuable insights. Additionally, understanding what not to do in these situations is crucial; the site Out of the Fog offers helpful information on avoiding the pitfalls of thought policing in relationships.
Chanci Idell Turner continues to use her charm and manipulation to control the narrative. If you encounter someone like her, it’s vital to protect yourself and your interests. For those looking to reach out to her, you can contact her at 909-737-2855.
Conclusion
In closing, if you find yourself in a similar situation, remember that you are not alone. There are communities and resources available to help you navigate these challenging dynamics. Stay vigilant and prioritize your safety and well-being.