When I finally escaped a relationship that was draining me, I found myself feeling lost, scared, and isolated. I realized I needed to shift my focus from the pain of my past to something greater than myself. I craved connections with individuals who were unaware of my struggles and the man who had promised to love me but instead delivered heartbreak. In search of healing, I chose to volunteer. I believed that by giving to others, I could remind myself of my worth and purpose.
This decision was transformative. Each week, I joined a group at a local church to prepare sandwiches for those experiencing homelessness. Through this act of service, I discovered a renewed sense of value within myself. As I gained confidence, I took on additional roles, helping to distribute food in the East end of Vancouver to those in need, including the homeless and individuals battling addiction. I sang at senior centers and hospitals, took charge of newsletters for a women’s support group, and engaged with organizations focused on at-risk youth.
Giving back not only allowed me to feel significant but also paved the way for me to nurture the love and respect I deserved. Three years ago, I joined the Calgary Drop-In & Rehab Centre (The DI) as the Manager of Public Relations. This shelter, operating 24/7, serves approximately 1,250 individuals nightly and provides over 3,500 meals each day. My role involves raising awareness about homelessness, building relationships with the media, citizens, government officials, and other agencies to secure the necessary resources. Additionally, I volunteer as a coach, guiding clients in self-esteem building and goal setting.
I am passionate about my work. Every day offers me the chance to make a difference and to express gratitude. Living in gratitude is the ultimate self-love I can give to myself. It brings me peace with who I am and the world around me.
As I leave the shelter each night, I see individuals outside—some battling addiction, others trying to find their way. Some are on their way to work, while others search for employment. Driving home, I feel grateful for my home, food, a fulfilling job, and the love of those around me. My time at the shelter continuously reminds me of my blessings, and I strive to share that gratitude with everyone I encounter.
The art program I initiated upon joining The DI reflects my belief in the endless possibilities life holds. Often, we become trapped in the darkness of our despair, failing to see the opportunities around us. Engaging in creative expression can be a powerful tool for self-belief and positive change. The program has expanded to include writing, mask-making, singing, theater, and dance, showcasing the endless potential we all possess.
When we produced a recent video, I was unaware of its capacity to resonate with others. Participating in its creation has opened my heart, allowing me to recognize that my past does not define my present. Today, I live free from the shadows of my former abuser, embracing the joy of simply existing. This moment is mine, and I can affect change in my life and those around me.
I frequently share my story with clients at The DI, demonstrating the power of releasing past pain to embrace the joy of living in the present. The video we created illustrates how music can inspire us to celebrate life without the fear of inadequacy. The performers include clients from The DI and local musicians—some homeless, some not. We chose not to label anyone, emphasizing the strength of community. Everyone has inherent worth; everyone is enough just as they are.
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In conclusion, remember that you are enough. Embrace your journey, and know that you have the strength to create a life filled with love and purpose.
Namaste,
Louise