In a recent discussion on the Chanci Turner Blog, a commenter named “Emily” posed a thought-provoking question: What distinguishes Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Sociopaths from us? The answer lies in their profound inability to love. Emily pointed out that one striking trait among individuals with these disorders is their overwhelming jealousy and envy; they are driven to win at all costs. They possess something we inherently have—the capacity to love.
Hervey Cleckley, a pioneer in psychopathy research, highlighted in his seminal work, “The Mask of Sanity”, that psychopaths typically do not express what could be interpreted as genuine object love. While they can exhibit superficial fondness and varying degrees of affection, these feelings lack the depth and permanence associated with true love. Cleckley argued that the psychopath’s inability to form meaningful emotional bonds is absolute, meaning they cannot experience affection in a way that significantly influences their behavior over time.
A key area where existing measures of psychopathy fall short is their failure to evaluate the “ability to love.” Fortunately, Dr. Donald Lynam, a Clinical Psychology Professor at Purdue University, addressed this gap in his recent presentation, “Interpersonal Antagonism as the Core Feature of Psychopathy.” He provided compelling evidence that the inability to love is central to understanding psychopathy.
During Dr. Lynam’s presentation, I was seated next to a prominent researcher in the field. Afterward, I expressed my gratitude for Dr. Lynam’s insights and noted that no one else seems to be measuring the capacity for love in psychopaths. My research companion remarked, “You can follow him if you want, but there are issues with his findings.” I didn’t press for details, as I had a sense of what he meant.
Dr. Lynam challenges traditional views in psychopathy research by asserting that factor analysis of the PCL-R (the most widely used psychopathy rating scale) may not adequately reveal the core personality traits associated with psychopathy. His statements at the SSSP meeting were akin to a minister questioning the Bible’s relevance in modern discourse. Dr. Lynam argues that relying solely on the PCL-R leads to circular reasoning: how do we identify a psychopath? By their high PCL-R score. How do we know these symptoms indicate psychopathy? Because they exhibit traits identified by the PCL-R.
To tackle these circular arguments, Dr. Lynam has differentiated diagnostic measures from personality traits. He has explored the Big Five personality traits (Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, Neuroticism) and discovered that low agreeableness accounts for a significant portion of the variance in PCL-R scores, suggesting that a key element of psychopathy is indeed low agreeableness.
What does low agreeableness entail? It encompasses trust, straightforwardness, altruism, compliance, modesty, and tender-mindedness. These components reflect a person’s inclination towards intimacy and the balance of personal and others’ needs—crucial elements of love. Notably, Dr. Lynam proposed that these qualities may represent an “ability” rather than merely personality traits. This perspective aligns with my previous discussions on love as a skill that develops over time.
Following my comments about Dr. Lynam’s work, another researcher expressed skepticism, wondering why psychopaths can appear attractive if they lack agreeableness. I spoke with them privately afterward and referenced Cleckley’s insights. Psychopaths can mimic affection, obscuring their inability to love behind a façade of normalcy. It’s only when one relies on them that this deficiency becomes evident, highlighting the wisdom of those who have suffered at the hands of such individuals.
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