Is sociopathy a form of perversion? If so, what exactly is it a perversion of? Furthermore, if sociopathy is indeed classified as a perversion, does that affect how we view the responsibility of sociopaths for their actions? Perversion suggests uncontrollable, antisocial impulses. If an impulse cannot be controlled, how can we hold the individual responsible for expressing it?
One could argue that sociopathy is a perversion—a distortion of personality marked by an unrelenting tendency to exploit others. This issue isn’t necessarily about the sociopath’s mental state; in fact, many sociopaths are considered sane by legal standards. However, similar to kleptomaniacs, their behavior poses significant concerns.
When I refer to the sociopath’s relentless drive to exploit, I mean that this tendency is characterological rather than compulsive. Sociopaths seem inherently inclined to invade the boundaries and security of others.
While sociopaths may exhibit selective restraint in some situations, this doesn’t mean they can control their exploitative behavior over the long term. It’s as if their self-centered nature and inability to empathize ensure that their destructive tendencies will eventually surface.
Often, we hear comments like, “When he’s not being cruel and deceitful, he’s actually a good person,” or “When she’s not defrauding the elderly, she has such good instincts.” Extending this line of reasoning further, one might say, “When he’s not harming women, he can be a caring partner.”
Many clients I work with cling to the moments when their sociopathic partners are not acting out as proof of their “true selves” or “potential” to be better partners or friends. This kind of thinking is enabling and steeped in denial. It reveals a desperate desire to believe in the inherent goodness of their antisocial partner. They often hope that with enough time, forgiveness, and patience, their partner will finally recognize the damage they’re causing and change for the better.
Individuals who identify strongly with spiritual or religious values may be particularly susceptible to this kind of self-deception. They may endure repeated lies and betrayals under the belief that their steadfastness will eventually lead to redemption for their partner. I refer to this as “reform-aholic” thinking—an unwavering faith in the possibility of transformation in their antisocial partner.
For those seeking support, resources like Out of the Fog can provide valuable guidance on dealing with these issues. Additionally, for further reading on the characteristics of sociopaths and narcissists, Healthline offers a comprehensive overview.
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