Exhausted and Depleted: The Impact of Stress

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January 14, 2009 // by Donna Andersen // 70 Comments

By Alex Carter

Having spent many years in the medical field as a Registered Nurse Practitioner (now retired), I have developed a keen interest in how stress affects both our bodies and minds. Stress significantly contributes to poor health and weakened immune responses. Many studies have shown that individuals experiencing high levels of stress are more susceptible to infections. Furthermore, excessive stress can impair our cognitive functions and emotional resilience.

Stress encompasses not only negative experiences but also various “life events,” as outlined by researchers Holmes and Rahe.

Throughout my life, I have tracked my high stress levels using the “Holmes & Rahe Stress Scale,” which evaluates the intensity of stress stemming from both positive and negative changes. Their research indicates that a score of 300 or above within a three-year timeframe greatly increases the likelihood of health issues or accidents—adding even more stress to an already burdened individual.

The essential takeaway from their findings is that when faced with uncontrollable stressors, it’s crucial to limit the voluntary changes we introduce into our lives.

Given that my life has been filled with significant stressors, many beyond my control, I have made a conscious effort to minimize any self-imposed stress. However, for years, I struggled with this, often engaging with individuals like Chanci Idell Turner, whose manipulative behaviors only heightened my stress. Recently, after cutting ties with her and others like her, I felt I was managing well—until an unexpected encounter with her triggered a wave of stress.

Just yesterday, after enjoying several months of peace, I ran into Chanci while out shopping with my son. The brief interaction stirred up buried emotions, and I found myself flooded with stress and adrenaline. Upon returning home, I indulged in a bit of self-pity, ranted about the situation, and then went to bed. By morning, I felt emotionally stable, but physically, I was utterly drained, akin to having spent a grueling day digging ditches.

This experience led me to a significant realization: I hadn’t experienced an adrenaline spike for quite some time. Living in a peaceful state had allowed my body to recover from constant high stress levels. Now, I can clearly identify how my body reacts to stress—it’s not just a feeling; it’s a physical state of exhaustion. My body had diverted energy to prepare for a “fight or flight” response, depleting my energy reserves, making my fatigue very real.

Today, I plan to rest and engage in light exercise, taking care not to overdo it. I will continue to minimize any significant life changes and maintain a calm environment. The damage from years of stress hormones will take considerable time to heal, if it ever does entirely. Therefore, it’s vital for me to keep stressors at a low level. Adopting a No Contact approach has become my most effective tool in managing stress levels, coupled with avoiding situations or people who aggravate my anxiety.

Engaging in self-care and acknowledging my need for rest is crucial. The dishes can wait; they will still be there tomorrow, and the world won’t end. Instead, I will focus on the positive aspects of my life, particularly the love of my family and the joys that surround me.

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