In situations where individuals find themselves married to sociopaths, divorce is often inevitable. Once the legal process begins, it can be a grueling, costly battle. The recent divorce case of former New Jersey Governor, Jack Thompson, and his wife, Sarah Thompson, serves as a prime example of this reality.
You may recall that in 2004, Governor Jack Thompson made headlines when he publicly declared his sexual orientation during a press conference, revealing an affair with a male aide. Unbeknownst to Sarah, he had come out to her only days before this public announcement, forcing her to stand by him in what can only be described as a bewildering moment.
In my view, Thompson’s actions are less about his sexual orientation and more indicative of sociopathic behavior, echoing sentiments I expressed in my review of Silent Partner, a narrative by the wife of another high-profile figure. The couple’s divorce unfolded much like many others, but with the added spectacle of media attention.
Sarah Thompson felt betrayed, furious, and humiliated. Her desire for accountability from her husband was evident as she sought alimony, child support, and coverage of legal fees. Conversely, Jack Thompson aimed to minimize his financial obligations, suggesting no alimony and minimal child support.
The couple’s inability to settle left the decision in the hands of Superior Court Judge Emily Warren.
Financial Disputes in Court
Judge Warren issued a detailed 40-page opinion regarding the couple’s financial matters. I encourage anyone facing a legal battle with a sociopath to review it. After a year of contentious litigation, they did manage to agree on child custody for their daughter, leaving the financial disputes unresolved. Key issues included:
- The question of whether Thompson’s celebrity status warranted additional financial considerations for Sarah.
- Consideration of their lifestyle in the governor’s mansion, complete with numerous amenities, when determining support.
- Whether Thompson’s behavior—his coming out and claims that Sarah was aware of his preferences—should influence alimony decisions.
- The application of standard child support guidelines versus Thompson’s actual financial capacity to pay more.
Court’s Perspective
Typically, courts assume both parties share responsibility for the marriage’s breakdown and aim to distribute remaining assets equitably. However, Judge Warren noted that in this case, both parties were unwilling to compromise, despite numerous attempts at mediation. She stated:
“It was evident that both sides maintained extreme positions, disregarding the possibility of a fair resolution. Their unwillingness to cooperate, compounded by their emotional turmoil, led to unnecessary public scrutiny and conflict.”
The judge emphasized the need for objective and fair decisions based on the evidence and legal standards, rather than the drama surrounding the case.
Alimony and Child Support
Considering the brevity of their marriage—just over four years—Judge Warren categorized it as short-term. Sarah argued that her alimony should reflect her lifestyle as first lady, during which she spent lavishly on clothes. However, the judge dismissed this claim, stating the lifestyle in the governor’s mansion was not permanent, and Thompson’s conduct did not constitute significant legal misconduct.
Sarah was awarded no alimony. For child support, the court evaluated both parties’ financial situations. Sarah had been earning around $82,000 annually, while Thompson’s earnings fluctuated significantly, peaking at $428,833 in one year due to book deals. Ultimately, the court deemed Thompson “underemployed” and set child support at $1,075 per month, alongside health insurance and extracurricular costs for their daughter.
Asset Distribution
The couple had limited assets, but disputes arose regarding the potential value of Thompson’s celebrity goodwill. Sarah argued for a share of this goodwill, claiming it was worth over a million dollars. However, the court found the valuation speculative and awarded her nothing for goodwill or Thompson’s book earnings, though she did receive nearly $110,000 in cash distribution.
Both parties sought to have their attorney fees covered, but the judge ruled against awarding any fees, requiring them to pay their own legal costs.
Marriage Fraud Allegations
Sarah Thompson also filed a claim of marriage fraud, alleging she was misled into marrying a man who concealed his sexual orientation for political gain. In contrast, Thompson maintained that Sarah was aware of his orientation, even suggesting her involvement in threesomes with him and his aide—a claim she strongly denied.
While the judge dismissed some allegations, the marriage fraud claim remains active, although it is uncertain if Sarah will pursue it further.
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