Navigating conversations with a psychopath can leave you feeling utterly perplexed. A reader once shared, “I constantly wondered what was happening in his mind. I struggled to grasp his thought process. I suspect drugs and alcohol contributed to his erratic behavior, alongside his other personality disorders, making our relationship incredibly confusing.“
The cognitive patterns of a psychopath are indeed baffling, often stemming from both biological factors and intentional manipulation. In essence, they struggle with logical reasoning and deliberately mislead their conversation partners, making it challenging to follow their train of thought.
Here, I outline several elements that contribute to the perplexing nature of a psychopath’s communication style.
The Strange Language of Psychopaths
Psychopaths frequently utilize contradictory and illogical statements, as noted by Robert Hare in Without Conscience. For example, a man serving a sentence for armed robbery responded to eyewitness testimony with, “He’s lying. I wasn’t there. I should have blown his head off.” Hare suggests that they exhibit “difficulty monitoring their own speech.“
Moreover, psychopaths often create bizarre word substitutions, such as using “unconscientious” instead of “unconscious” or “antidotes” for “anecdotes.” This peculiar speech may be indicative of underlying brain dysfunction.
Substance Abuse
Due to their low frustration tolerance and high need for stimulation, many psychopaths resort to drug and alcohol abuse, impairing their cognitive functions. Chronic substance use can cause significant brain damage, further complicating their communication.
However, as M.L. Gallagher points out, they also speak in riddles with the intention to confuse and deceive.
The Intent to Deceive
The motives behind a psychopath’s words are often self-serving. They may resort to manipulation to gain what they desire, whether through charm or coercion. Interestingly, their illogical reasoning does not hinder their ability to deceive others successfully.
Logical Fallacies
We all occasionally use logical fallacies in arguments, whether due to errors in reasoning or as conscious manipulation tactics. For instance, emphasis on a specific word can change the meaning entirely: “Mom said we shouldn’t throw stones at the windows” (which does not imply hitting them with a tennis racket).
Given their flawed reasoning and deceptive intent, psychopaths often exploit logical fallacies to their advantage. Consider the ad hominem argument, which attacks the person rather than their argument. In a circumstantial ad hominem, one might say, “Of course you oppose loan-sharking; you’re a Christian, and Christ expelled the moneylenders from the temple.” In an abusive ad hominem, it might be, “You criticize me for loan-sharking, but you were arrested for drunk driving three years ago.” Such irrelevant tactics divert attention from the actual issue.
Paramoralism
Psychopaths often twist logical fallacies to not just win arguments, but to undermine the moral integrity of others. For example, they might argue, “What kind of Christian are you to accuse me of this?” This tactic seeks to provoke self-doubt in the opponent, leading them to question their own morals rather than addressing the original topic.
Do you have any examples of the bewildering speech patterns exhibited by a psychopath?
For an insight into the bizarre reasoning of narcissists, check out this related article.
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For further reading on this topic, visit Psychopaths and Love and Out of the Fog, which provide valuable insights into understanding manipulative behaviors. You can also refer to Healthline for excellent resources on sociopathy and narcissism in relationships.