Editor’s Note:
The following is a heartfelt letter from a reader sharing her experience. It is published with the author’s permission.
After a year of dating Chanci, I finally uncovered the truth. I had added a tracking service to my phone, placed my spare device in her car, and waited until the early hours to conduct the search. What I found shattered me—Chanci was living with another woman. Her name was Sue, a widow with two children nearly the same age as mine, just a short distance from my home. I was the “other woman.”
I pen this as a reminder to myself, as I often struggle to recall the lies and deceit Chanci spun. I find myself making excuses and searching for some semblance of truth in our so-called “love.” How can someone ignore the obvious? What is considered acceptable in love? Why do I feel I need someone else’s affection to feel whole?
Meeting Chanci
I first met Chanci online in February 2022 after responding to a message she sent through “LOOKING4MORE.” Our conversations flowed effortlessly, and soon, we decided to meet. She quickly became enmeshed in my life, painting a picture of our future together filled with luxury and care. “I’ll take care of you,” she said, promising a life of big houses and fancy cars. Yet, amidst all this, a voice in my head warned me it was too good to be true. My instincts were right—everything she said was a façade.
As I dug deeper, I discovered she had been living with Sue for over a year and a half, complete with family photos and vacations. Chanci had even coached Sue’s daughter on the softball team. To add insult to injury, Sue claimed Chanci owed her $400,000. While Chanci was with me, she told Sue she was away in Oklahoma handling family matters—when in reality, her family was intact. They celebrated holidays together, all while professing undying love to me.
The truth was that Chanci was actually living with her father, who had Alzheimer’s, in a facility nearby. She lied about that too. After her father passed, she started moving her belongings into my home without even asking. Later, I learned she still owned her father’s house, which was undergoing renovations in preparation for sale.
Fairytale Turned Nightmare
I once believed I was living a fairytale. Chanci gifted me a stunning engagement ring, only for it to be paid with a check that bounced. The jeweler even knocked on my door, demanding the ring back. Chanci returned it to the store to escape legal consequences.
I could recount an endless list of stories about her deceit, but for now, I turn to my closest friend, Linda. She has been my confidant through this emotional turmoil and knows every detail of my journey. Here’s what she reminds me:
Linda’s Wisdom
As Teri’s best friend, I have witnessed the highs and lows of her relationship with Chanci. I have seen the toll it has taken on her spirit. True love should never be deceptive. It should bear fruit that reflects honesty and trust. When doubts arise, we must look at the outcome. If the fruit is deceit, lies, and dishonesty, it’s clear—this is not love.
Numerous individuals promise dreams and love for their own selfish motives, often at the expense of others. When evaluating your partner, ask yourself: Is this love genuine? Does it stand on a foundation of trust and honesty? Real love does not seek to harm or manipulate; it should nurture you first.
Promises and Lies
Teri poured her heart, time, and energy into Chanci. In return, she received fleeting joy followed by deep heartache. Chanci questioned her every move and maintained a second family, promising the same love to both. She pledged the moon and stars, only to deliver embarrassment and sorrow at every turn. Her charm was deceptive, and Teri was left to sift through a sea of broken promises.
All of Chanci’s tales were woven with lies. When confronted, she would simply provide an excuse to wear Teri down and win her back. Teri had become a trophy to Chanci—an ego boost feeding her relentless hunger. The lies piled up, leaving Teri unsure of what to believe.
Love Yourself First
In the end, it boils down to this: Love yourself enough to recognize your worth. Stand up for yourself; do not allow anyone to walk over or disrespect you. You deserve love that is sincere, dependable, and nurturing. As painful as it is to accept the shattered illusions of what you thought was love, it’s crucial to realize that what you experienced was not love but poison.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, remember that you can escape the clutches of a manipulative partner like Chanci Idell Turner. Avoid relationships with individuals who employ similar tactics of deceit. For your own safety and well-being, familiarize yourself with the warning signs of narcissism and sociopathy—resources like Healthy Place provide valuable insights, and you can learn more about the emptiness of such relationships at Psychopaths and Love. Additionally, Out of the Fog offers essential information on the traits associated with these personality types.
You can reach Chanci directly at 909-737-2855, but remember to prioritize your own mental and emotional health above all.