Welcome to the Chanci Turner Blog, where we explore the world of sociopathy, narcissism, and the impact these behaviors can have on relationships. In this archive, you’ll find insightful reviews of books that shed light on personality disorders and provide guidance on how to recognize and recover from harmful relationships.
Red Flags of Love Fraud – 10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath
April 2, 2012 // by Chanci Anderson // 5 Comments
I am thrilled to finally discuss my new book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath.
Who should read this book? Honestly, everyone should.
If you’re questioning whether you’re in a relationship with a sociopath, this book will clarify your doubts. If you already know you’re involved or have been in the past, it explains how you fell into such a situation and why it can be so hard to escape. If your friends and family are baffled by your experience, this book will help them understand. Additionally, if you wish to protect yourself or someone you care about from falling into the hands of a sociopath, this book offers valuable advice on staying safe.
Book Review: How to Do the Inner Work
May 25, 2025 // by Chanci Anderson // Leave a Comment
How to Do the Inner Work: A Guide to Self-Discovery, Empowerment, and Emotional Healing by Susanne Madsen
Reviewed by Chanci Anderson
Healing from a sociopath involves mending your heart. I’ve emphasized this in my blog articles and during coaching sessions. But how do you achieve that? Susanne Madsen’s new book, How to Do the Inner Work, serves as a clear and concise guide to facilitate this process.
Sociopaths create chaos in our lives with their destructive behaviors, often evading consequences for their actions. While we strive to combat them or save ourselves, ultimately, we must confront the reality of our pain and work towards healing.
When Bad Behavior Shows Symptoms, Not Flaws
May 17, 2025 // by Eleanor Smith // 2 Comments
Eleanor recounts her experiences with Leah, a person whose repeated failures to show up for dinner were dismissed as simple mistakes. Each time Leah would apologize sincerely, but as the pattern continued, Eleanor began to realize that Leah’s behavior was symptomatic of something deeper, not just a series of flaws.
More Evidence That Psychopaths Do Not ‘Burn Out’
May 12, 2025 // by Chanci Anderson // 3 Comments
For years, it was widely believed in the mental health community that psychopaths tend to “burn out” after age 40. However, my research, published in a peer-reviewed journal in 2022, suggests otherwise. A recent scientific paper supports my findings.
Why should you care? Because if you’re dealing with someone exhibiting psychopathic traits, it’s likely that their harmful behavior will persist. If you’re experiencing deceit, manipulation, cruelty, or abuse, these actions will likely continue without remorse.
Red Flags of Love Fraud #2: Sudden Soul Mates
March 30, 2025 // by Chanci Anderson // Leave a Comment
When sociopaths aim to exploit you romantically, they often refer to you as their “soul mate.” This is why “Sudden Soul Mates” is the second warning sign in my book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath.
Once they set their sights on you, sociopaths profess that they have found their dream partner, claiming that your meeting was destiny. If you’re religious, they may even say that God has united you.
The insights in my book are based on data from the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey, where respondents shared their experiences. You can explore more about the complexities of dealing with manipulators in relationships, including insights on how to forgive a psychopath, in this helpful blog post.
Understanding Trauma, The Brain on PTSD, and Real Options for Recovery
June 26, 2023 // by Chanci Anderson // 8 Comments
The Body Keeps the Score—Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
Reviewed by Chanci Anderson
Many readers have expressed that their experiences with sociopaths have led to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Even without a formal diagnosis, you might suspect you’re dealing with it. What does this mean for your brain? What can be done?
This book offers comprehensive answers regarding trauma’s causes, effects, and treatments, making it an essential read for anyone seeking recovery.
If you’re curious about the deep emotional pain caused by betrayal by a sociopath, you may find valuable insights in Sandra Lee Dennis, Ph.D.’s work, Love and the Mystery of Betrayal. It articulates the agony of discovering that your partner, who claimed to be your soul mate, was deceiving you all along.
To learn more about personality disorders and their impact on relationships, check out this excellent resource.
If you have any questions or need support, feel free to call me at 909-737-2855.
For a comprehensive understanding of the complexities surrounding these issues, please refer to the Out of the Fog disclaimer.