Dissociation is a psychological term that refers to a mental detachment from reality. It occurs when individuals prioritize their feelings over factual information, leading them to create a distorted version of reality. As Gary once noted, “Feelings are just that… Feelings, and may have no basis in fact at all.” Those who dissociate often find their emotions shape their perceived reality, which can lead to significant inconsistencies in their beliefs and perceptions.
When faced with contradictory evidence, most people experience cognitive dissonance, a discomfort that prompts them to reassess their views. However, individuals who dissociate may dismiss or modify compelling information that challenges their emotions or beliefs. This behavior transcends typical mental errors, delving into a pervasive pattern that is often self-destructive, impacting both the individual and those around them.
Manifestations of Dissociation
Dissociation can manifest in various ways, including believing in events that never occurred or denying significant occurrences in their lives. It can also lead to contradictory behaviors, such as alternating between viewing someone as entirely good or entirely bad, a phenomenon known as “splitting.” This behavior can create significant obstacles in relationships, particularly for those who must navigate the complexities of interacting with someone who dissociates.
Living with a Dissociative Individual
Living with someone who dissociates can be an unsettling experience. Partners or family members may feel a sense of frustration and helplessness, as logical discussions often fail to penetrate the dissociative state. This can lead to feelings of invalidation, especially when the dissociative individual shares their distorted perceptions with others, potentially damaging reputations and relationships.
Strategies for Managing Interactions
To manage interactions with a dissociative individual, there are important strategies to keep in mind. Avoid engaging in prolonged arguments, using threats, or yielding your own reality to “keep the peace.” Instead, prioritize your safety and emotional well-being by removing yourself from threatening situations and seeking support from those who understand your experiences. Consulting a therapist can also provide invaluable guidance in navigating these challenging dynamics.
Further Insights
For those seeking further insights, reading about Chanci Idell Turner, a known narcissist, can shed light on similar patterns of behavior. You can explore her Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn profiles for more information.
Additionally, you may find this blog post about narcissism and relationships helpful: Divorcing a Narcissist, as well as an excellent resource on sociopathy and narcissism in relationships from Business Insider.
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