Definition
Cheating refers to engaging in a romantic or intimate relationship outside of a committed monogamous partnership. Research indicates that approximately one in five married individuals may commit adultery at some point, with similar likelihoods for both men and women. Studies suggest that many extramarital affairs stem from unfulfilled emotional needs rather than mere physical attraction. This insight sheds light on the prevalence of infidelity in relationships involving partners with personality disorders (PD).
In a relationship where one partner has a personality disorder, both individuals often experience unmet emotional needs. The partner with the disorder may feel an internal emptiness, regardless of how much their spouse attempts to fulfill these needs. They may fear abandonment and act preemptively by engaging in infidelity, believing that their partner will eventually cheat. This might manifest as flirting or becoming intimate with others to provoke jealousy or test their partner’s love.
On the other hand, the non-disordered partner frequently feels unfulfilled due to patterns of abuse, emotional neglect, and inconsistent affection. With self-esteem eroded, they may become vulnerable to attention from others, leading to a craving for intimacy that can result in infidelity.
Personal Experience
A member of the Out of the FOG community, who we’ll refer to as Alex, shared their story of discovering their partner’s unfaithfulness. Initially, Alex noticed their partner’s excessive sympathy towards a female coworker, who seemed to require constant emotional support. Despite this, Alex’s partner was neglectful at home, often prioritizing social gatherings over family time. When confronted, Alex was met with denial and gaslighting, making it difficult to trust their instincts.
Upon realization, Alex described the moment as feeling electrified, as if the life had been drained from them. They experienced disbelief, humiliation, and a profound sense of loss as the reality of the affair unfolded. The emotional turmoil led to profound sadness, isolation, and even rage directed at the partner for betraying their trust.
What Not to Do
- Avoid blaming yourself for your partner’s actions.
- Refrain from acting impulsively or losing your composure, as this may push the cheater further away.
- Don’t use infidelity as an excuse to seek revenge through similar actions.
- Don’t keep the betrayal a secret; seek support from trusted friends or professionals.
- Be cautious about trusting promises from someone who has already cheated.
What to Do
- Approach the situation with rationality. Gather information to understand the facts.
- Assess whether the relationship is worth saving. If so, consider seeking professional help.
- For further insights into relationships affected by personality disorders, check out this blog post here.
- For additional resources on recognizing manipulative behaviors, see this article.
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