It feels as though the authorities are colluding with my sociopathic ex to perpetuate his fraudulent actions.
I married him and we had two children together. After our second child, we agreed that I would stay at home since his construction business was thriving. During this time, we renovated a house, I battled and survived breast cancer twice, and I raised two children with learning disabilities.
He expressed a desire to build a new home and got involved with a speculative house project. Unbeknownst to me, he drained all the equity from our first home, lied about paying our taxes for five years, refused to establish a retirement account for me while having one for himself, and neglected bills for three years. While I was undergoing chemotherapy, he was unfaithful and brainwashed our son into believing I was a “gold digger” who squandered our money, despite the fact that I only received an allowance and was never privy to our finances. He even accused me of the children not being his, mocked my age, belittled me constantly, and more.
We ended up filing for bankruptcy, I was granted Innocent Spouse status, and we lost two homes to foreclosure. During the divorce, I was unfairly portrayed as the one who did not contribute financially and blamed for his business’s collapse. He stole hundreds of thousands from clients, banks, me, and even our kids. He lied on every financial affidavit in court, took assets, and left me broke at 60 years old with no job skills. My divorce attorney said, “the court has decided you can live on social services…”
Since 2012, he has filed an Offer in Compromise to the IRS, but I can’t obtain any records. His reported income is so low that it’s impossible; he’s likely taking cash in his business. He is $12,000 behind on child support and hasn’t spent a day in jail. He makes deal after deal, breaks them, and only faces minor consequences.
I have contacted nearly every legislator in the state, the State Attorney General, domestic violence organizations, and the IRS, yet no one seems to care! It feels like they are all complicit in his fraud.
To make matters worse, his family is connected to the State Attorney General, who reportedly gave him a “heads up” about my actions.
Now, I am bracing for round three of breast cancer, and I am sure it’s due to the stress. I can’t go on disability because I stayed home with our children, which cost me 16 years of social security. My small retirement account is gone as I used it to pay rent.
It’s horrendous to see what has been allowed to happen to us, the victims, while the system enables him to continue harming us. I live under the state’s thumb due to social services while he runs free. It’s sickening.
Advice for Others
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