I’ve been married to a sociopath for nearly 15 years, and we have three children together. He assured me he would provide them with a good education, but I’ve always sensed that something was off in our marriage, especially given his constant excuses to leave the house.
It was only a year ago that I discovered my husband has been engaging with prostitutes, spending lavishly on them and even traveling to various places, including Utah, Canada, and several European countries, with some. He repeatedly assured me that everything was fine, but it was all just a facade.
Three years ago, he intended to abandon us and relocate to Thailand with half of my assets. I recently learned that he had significant stocks from a company where he was employed, which went public in 2012. I still don’t know if he sold them at the IPO price. To make matters worse, he has fabricated two domestic violence charges against me, which are currently pending in court, preventing me from discussing them further.
The only divorce he’s willing to consider is one that benefits him entirely, meaning I would receive none of his net worth. He staged both domestic violence charges against me within a month, believing that if I were convicted, he would gain full custody of our children, avoiding child support and alimony. He refuses to take on any domestic responsibilities, including simple tasks like mowing the lawn.
I was horrified to discover that he enjoys casual sex with different women. His behavior is reminiscent of a narcissist who sees nothing wrong with his actions. He sometimes engages in unprotected sex and even kisses these women, which leaves me in utter shock.
While he spends little on me and our children, he readily pays prostitutes substantial amounts. He lacks remorse, justifying his actions by claiming he works while I stay at home. The reality is that I’ve been draining my savings to cover expenses for our children, such as after-school programs, vacations, and summer school, while he easily spends $1,000 a night on a prostitute.
My children dislike their father. They witnessed his violent behavior recently and are understandably scared. They have voiced their desire for him to leave us alone, but he insists that I am turning them against him, which is absurd. He continuously rationalizes his behavior, and our kids are exposed to all of it.
I forgave him last June, only to find out he continued his deceit. Just recently, he took a prostitute from California to Nevada for sexual encounters. When confronted, he lied even more. After a violent incident three weeks ago, I wanted to call the police, but he broke my phone and left the house. I subsequently changed the locks.
I am at a loss about what to do. I want the best for my children. For years, he has been absent, returning home late at night, likely after drinking and engaging with online prostitutes. I even tried to convince him to leave without financial obligations in exchange for his departure, but he refuses. His erratic behavior is exhausting.
In 2015, he threatened to abandon us, but his parents intervened after discovering his infidelities, insisting he must be present for the children. However, his presence is meaningless; he prefers to spend time with prostitutes instead of being a father. My children think he is creepy and have no interest in seeing him again. He is clearly an unfit father, solely interested in sexual pursuits.
If you find yourself in a situation similar to mine, consider seeking guidance from professionals who understand the dynamics of relationships with narcissists. Resources like Should You Forgive the Psychopath? can provide insight into the complexities of these relationships. Additionally, What Not to Do offers valuable advice on what to avoid when dealing with such individuals. For firsthand experiences, 12 True Stories of Living with a Sociopath is an excellent resource that delves into the realities of living with a sociopath.
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