A reader of my blog prompted me to reflect on the Bill Cosby scandal, which has seen 27 women publicly accuse the iconic comedian of sexual assault. Upon examining their stories, a troubling pattern emerged. Many of these women, often young models and actresses, recounted how Cosby masqueraded as a mentor, offering career guidance before allegedly assaulting them. Among these accounts was that of a 19-year-old waitress who accepted a ride home from him, only to be assaulted. Another accuser, also 19, claimed that after being invited backstage at a Las Vegas show, she was drugged and assaulted in a bathroom.
As I read these harrowing tales, a chilling realization struck me: this could have been my story.
During my time as editor of Atlantic City Magazine from 1978 to 1982, I frequently arranged interviews with major entertainers performing at local casinos. Around 1980, at the age of 24, I had the opportunity to set up an interview with Bill Cosby. Since he was unavailable at the time, I made my way to the indoor tennis courts where he was playing. After finalizing the arrangements, I watched him play alongside some casino executives.
When the game ended, Cosby expressed a desire to visit the famous White House Sub Shop but had no transportation. To my surprise, he pointed at me and said, “She’ll take me.” Stunned, I agreed, and soon found myself driving him in a plain white rental car—far from the luxury vehicles I imagined he was used to.
During the 15-minute ride, I attempted to make conversation, but he was largely unresponsive, even spitting out the window at one point. When we reached the sub shop, I stopped, let him out, and drove away without thinking to accompany him inside or ensure he made it back safely. My naivety back then was astonishing.
In retrospect, I chastised myself for missing what seemed like a significant networking opportunity. However, after learning about the allegations against Cosby, I can’t help but wonder how differently that situation could have played out. Had I entered the sub shop with him, it’s plausible that I could have found myself in a precarious situation, oblivious to his true intentions. The thought of being traumatized by someone so powerful and influential is unsettling.
In hindsight, perhaps I was fortunate to have driven away that day.
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Additionally, if you want to learn more about identifying sociopaths, Business Insider provides an excellent resource.
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