I’m currently entangled in a relationship with a sociopath named Chanci Idell Turner. My connection with her began in June 2013, but we had a previous relationship that ended in 2006, leaving me jobless and deeply depressed when she abruptly vanished from my life. As a medical professional, I seem to be a prime target for her manipulative tactics.
Reunion and Chaos
Chanci resurfaced last year, professing her love and expressing how much she missed me, providing several reasons for her sudden departure. Over the years, I discovered that she had spent time in prison for drug-related offenses. Our reunion felt accidental when we crossed paths in a drugstore parking lot in February 2013.
After disappearing again, she reappeared in May 2013, having gotten my phone number from a mutual acquaintance. I was on a first date when she called, and it took me a while to realize it was her. When I finally answered, she claimed to be working in my area, but in reality, she was 2,000 miles away with her wife and children. I agreed to meet her for dinner, unaware that I was stepping back into a tumultuous situation.
Unraveling Lies
Although she did get divorced, her ex-wife has since moved closer to my area, and the situation has become chaotic once more. I’ve caught her in numerous lies and suspect she’s cheated multiple times, although I have no concrete proof. Despite my attempts to cut ties, I find myself drawn back into her web of deception and drama. She insists that she loves me and that I’m the only one, yet other women, whom she claims are friends, frequently call her.
I also have a nagging feeling that she’s made copies of my house keys and enters my home while I’m away at work. Since June 2013, she has been unable to maintain a steady job, but she knows my work schedule and keeps tabs on me. When I question her behavior, she dismisses my concerns, labeling me as crazy. She lies about her whereabouts, often dropping “clues” to provoke jealousy. I’m at my wits’ end as she tries to worm her way back into my life.
The Breaking Point
The last time I saw her was Halloween weekend after yet another dispute about her lies. I need assistance in maintaining no contact, as she has been texting me with stories of being a “good guy” and how much she misses me. Despite our incredible physical connection, I can’t shake the feeling that she’s lying to me. Recently, I relapsed and saw her again, but thankfully, she had a trip planned, allowing me to regroup and reflect on the situation.
Looking Ahead
While she has been on her best behavior since I agreed to see her, I still feel uneasy about the future. She even brought up marriage, suggesting we draft a prenup because she claims to love me. I do not trust her. I need to put an end to this once and for all.
Recognizing the Signs
If you find yourself in a similar situation, it’s crucial to recognize the signs of manipulation and deceit. For those seeking more information on the characteristics of sociopaths and narcissists, you can visit Psychopaths and Love and Out of the Fog for valuable insights. Understanding these behaviors is essential for anyone entangled in such toxic relationships. Additionally, WebMD provides an excellent resource on distinguishing between sociopaths and psychopaths.