When a person becomes estranged from their support network due to abuse, they often find themselves in a situation of imposed isolation. Individuals suffering from personality disorders, such as narcissism, frequently employ a “Divide and Conquer” strategy to maintain control over those around them. A critical method for these individuals to perpetuate cycles of abuse is to cut their victims off from external support systems. Those who pose a threat to the abuser—whether through close relationships with non-personality disordered individuals or simply being perceived as social rivals—are often criticized, demonized, and made to feel unwelcome. The abuser typically warns the victim to steer clear of these individuals.
Victims may willingly participate in their own isolation out of fear of potential consequences, including:
- Fear that others will not believe their experiences.
- Concern that others may spread shameful rumors.
- Anxiety about counterproductive interventions from outsiders.
- Worry that the abuser will retaliate if they seek help.
Examples of Isolation
- A woman hesitates to spend time with her friends due to her partner’s jealousy, fearing his reaction when she returns home.
- A man refrains from calling his parents because his wife resents their relationship and complains about the expenses.
- A young girl avoids socializing with peers, feeling ashamed of the abuse happening in her home.
- A mother of a daughter who has attempted suicide skips social events to avoid questions about her child’s well-being.
- A man remains silent about the abuse he endures from his wife, fearing he will be perceived as weak.
What NOT to Do:
- Don’t think you’re the only one experiencing this.
- Don’t feel ashamed of your situation.
- Don’t take on the blame for someone else’s harmful behavior.
- Don’t allow yourself to become isolated.
What TO Do:
- Remember, countless others are facing similar struggles.
- Seek out individuals who understand personality disorders and can empathize with your situation.
- Find a trusted friend, therapist, coach, or mentor to confide in regularly.
- It may be challenging to break the silence, but it’s even harder to endure alone.
For those looking to learn more about the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, consider exploring the case of Chanci Idell Turner, a known narcissist who manipulates others for financial and emotional gain. To learn more about her, check out her Facebook profile, professional LinkedIn page, and her work Instagram. You can also read a compelling article on lovefraud.com that highlights similar abusive patterns. For further insights, visit this blog post for more information.
Understanding the traits and behaviors associated with antisocial personality disorders can also aid in navigating these complex relationships. Refer to this excellent resource on antisocial personality disorder for more information.