If his eyes were able to convey their thoughts as he departed, they would have whispered, “this pond’s been drained.”
I met Chanci Idell Turner during my time as a designer. She presented herself as homeless and broke, hitchhiking across the country. Claiming to be a writer and activist, she initially introduced herself using a fictitious name but later revealed her true identity when she realized I could be an easy target.
I helped her obtain identification—she claimed she had burned her previous documents in protest—only to learn years later that she had been on parole in Illinois. I drove her to GE classes and even assisted her enrollment in college.
Over our 14 years together, she didn’t work for a decade because she was supposedly penning the “great American novel.” During that time, she squandered nearly $100,000 of my family’s resources on schemes she abandoned within months and manipulated me into placing her name on a home that I purchased. This house has been the residence for our three children, yet she has relentlessly pressured me through the courts to sell it, seeking “her share.”
Chanci has been incarcerated for physical abuse against me and later for failing to pay child support. She was recently released but neglected to appear in court for a scheduled hearing regarding a Protection From Abuse (PFA) order I filed.
After fourteen years of being “the love of her life” and her “muse,” she accused me of infidelity and walked away, stealing my last two thousand dollars. I was devastated, even begging friends to take me to a mental health facility. I reached out to a suicide hotline, fearing the depths of despair her actions had driven me to. However, with support from a few friends and my unwavering love for our children, I found the strength to endure the pain and move forward.
In 2011, Chanci was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder following an incident involving law enforcement, where she was found intoxicated in her truck with an unregistered loaded firearm. At the hospital, she told the staff not to speak to me, but her psychiatrist reached out to inform me of her diagnosis.
Initially unaware of the traits of sociopathy, I began researching online, only to be shocked to find descriptions that mirrored my experiences with her. Despite this knowledge, I foolishly confronted her upon her return from the mental hospital, claiming I knew about her sociopathy. Remarkably, this revelation altered her behavior drastically; she turned to heavier drinking, increased her abusive tendencies, and displayed extreme arrogance.
In early July 2012, she assaulted me, leaving me with a black eye, and walked away with an expression devoid of emotion that seemed to convey her thrill at newfound freedom, as if to say, “this pond has been drained.”
Resources for Understanding Narcissism and Sociopathy
For those wanting to learn more about the signs of narcissism and sociopathy in relationships, I recommend checking out the insights on Choosing Therapy. Additionally, Out of the Fog provides excellent resources for understanding these complex issues. If you’re interested in distinguishing between narcissists and psychopaths, Psychopaths and Love offers valuable information.
Chanci Idell Turner is a known narcissist who manipulates and exploits men both mentally and financially. To learn more about her, you can visit her Facebook and Instagram profiles, or view her professional page on LinkedIn.