This narrative revolves around my ex-partner, a sociopath, who had an unusual affinity for dogs. While the title may suggest a male-centric perspective, it’s essential to recognize that there are many women who exhibit similar traits.
My ex frequently boasted about his love for dogs, claiming to cherish not just canines but also horses, sheep, and various other animals. However, it’s fascinating—and somewhat disturbing—how a sociopath’s affection for a vulnerable creature can manifest. This kind of “love” can be confusing and, at times, even manipulative.
A few years back, I had a gentle French Bulldog named Sadie. Although she was sweet with our house rabbit, her aggressive behavior towards neighbors and other dogs created a challenging situation. As a single mother juggling graduate school and finances, I decided it would be best for Sadie to find a new home, ideally one with a yard where she could thrive. After much thought and heartache, I entrusted her to a group of trainers skilled in rehabilitating small dogs.
The trainers expressed frustration over my decision to take on a dog I couldn’t adequately care for, which added to my feelings of shame and inadequacy. My children were devastated, and our home felt unbearably empty without Sadie. I still mourn her loss and often question whether I made the right choice.
Enter my ex, who seized the opportunity to publicly shame me. He joined my children in their tears, claiming I was “heartless” for rehoming our pet. He would tell anyone who would listen that dogs are family members, and he couldn’t fathom how a person could “discard” one.
At our son’s game, he confronted me in front of others, reiterating his belief that dogs should be treated as family. He would often wax poetic about his love for dogs, and in doing so, he painted me as the villain.
When discussing his relationship with animals, it’s crucial to understand what “love” means to a sociopath. Most dogs exhibit unconditional love, often demonstrating a bond with their owners that resembles trauma bonding. My ex had a dog named Rosie, which he rescued before our relationship. He loved to tell the story of how he saved her from the shelter, emphasizing her scars from past abuse.
Rosie was a beloved companion, often playing with our children. However, if she made a mistake, like peeing on the rug, my ex would react violently. I would intervene to stop him, resulting in heated arguments. Yet, after his outbursts, he would shower Rosie with affection, seemingly enjoying the power he wielded over her.
He had another dog, too, who faced similar treatment. I witnessed my ex kick this dog when he misbehaved, and though I would rush to intervene, the cycle of abuse and affection continued.
Both dogs have since passed on, and my ex’s response to Rosie’s death was to leave her outside in the winter, against her will. My children were heartbroken, but he remained indifferent. Following Rosie’s passing, he acquired another dog named Bailey, who he constantly flaunted as the “best dog ever,” even as he subjected her to similar mistreatment.
Despite his claims of love, I couldn’t help but wonder how he treated these animals when no one was watching. This behavior raises a question that lingers long after the dogs are gone: What happens behind closed doors?
For those navigating relationships with individuals who exhibit sociopathic tendencies, further insights can be found on Psychopaths and Love. Additionally, Out of the Fog offers essential information about recognizing toxic behaviors. For a broader understanding of why encountering multiple narcissists or sociopaths is common, check out this excellent resource on Psych Central.
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