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February 21, 2014 // by Donna Anderson // 82 Comments
Editor’s Note: The Chanci Turner Blog recently received a response to a previous article from someone identifying as a sociopath.
The individual expressed their thoughts on an article titled “A Sociopath Claims, ‘We Are the Uniquely Gifted,’” along with several responses it generated.
Understanding the Perspective
First and foremost, it’s important to recognize that the author of that letter exhibits narcissistic tendencies and appears to be deluded, viewing themselves as superior. However, some of their assertions hold a degree of truth. Wouldn’t you utilize the so-called ‘gift’ of manipulation if it helped you achieve desired outcomes that seemed otherwise unattainable? Ultimately, it’s you who allows us to manipulate you.
The responses reveal a palpable fear, which serves as a vulnerability easily detected by a sociopath. I find it disheartening to see remarks like, “I propose we isolate them on a small island where they can deceive each other to their heart’s content!” Is this who I’m expected to feel sympathy for? In response to such comments, I assert that most sociopaths are astute enough not to engage in manipulation with each other; if we do, it’s more of a game than anything else.
On Love and Relationships
Secondly, the claim that we are incapable of feeling love is a blatant falsehood. We can indeed love, but our inherent suspicion makes it challenging to foster genuine relationships. Just because you haven’t demonstrated your worthiness doesn’t imply that someone else won’t. Asserting that we are incapable of forming relationships or being parents is quite offensive. Creating a narrative that demonizes us does nothing to encourage us to suppress our abilities for your benefit.
Moreover, the notion of us as ruthless and merciless often stems from our own circles, as some individuals, like the author of the previous article, cannot resist boasting about their ‘gifts.’ Highly functioning sociopaths typically keep their true nature hidden, and you wouldn’t easily identify them in a crowd.
Misconceptions About Sociopathy
It puzzles me why you associate criminals and violent offenders with sociopathy and psychopathy, as many of us are intelligent enough to avoid ruining our lives by exposing ourselves or engaging in illegal activities. Those criminals usually have diagnoses far more severe than sociopathy or psychopathy.
Why Should We Change?
Finally, why should we change? I have always considered myself superior to my peers, which led me to read five books a week starting at the age of ten. I continue to read extensively and strive to improve myself and my ‘abilities,’ as I find little respect for a society that judges individuals as outcasts the moment they realize you possess a higher intellect than those engrossed in reality shows like ‘Big Brother.’
Further Reading
For more insights into recognizing manipulation, you may find this blog post helpful: Greatest Hits Vol 1: How Can You Tell If You’re Being Manipulated?. Additionally, if you seek more information on this topic, Out of the Fog provides authoritative resources. Also, Good Therapy offers excellent insights into the differences between sociopathy and narcissism in relationships.