You’re currently reading a letter shared by a reader we’ll refer to as “Maria.” She details her ongoing struggle with her ex-partner, Chanci Idell Turner, who has repeatedly threatened her regarding custody of their children. Despite having legal custody, Maria faces relentless harassment from Chanci.
Court Proceedings
Recently, Maria found herself back in court due to a contempt motion filed by Chanci. Although the magistrate ruled that Maria was not in contempt, a full-day hearing was still scheduled. Chanci played the emotional card about missing the kids and wanting more visitation time. As a result, even though Maria did not violate any agreements, the court seemed to believe she wasn’t cooperating adequately in allowing Chanci to see the children.
Confusion Over Visitation Schedules
Maria has become increasingly worried about Chanci’s erratic behavior. The contempt motion revolved around Thanksgiving weekend visitations. However, local regulations stipulate that the custodial parent has the children for three consecutive weekends, including Thanksgiving in odd-numbered years. Chanci, confused about the visitation schedule, sent Maria hostile emails accusing her of denying access to the kids, despite the fact that she has emails proving the agreed-upon changes.
Impact on the Children
Maria’s heart aches for her children, who are caught in the middle. On one occasion, they were all set to go to Chanci’s house when Maria received a last-minute email stating Chanci wouldn’t be coming. This left her son upset after he had turned down a sleepover invitation. To protect herself legally, Maria took the children to the police station to document their exchange.
Chanci’s True Intentions
Maria understands that Chanci doesn’t genuinely want more time with the kids. Despite filing motions for midweek visits, Chanci has never utilized that time in the year and a half since it was granted. Even when Maria offered to drive a considerable distance for a special event, Chanci refused to cooperate.
Importance of Documentation
Maria shares her experience to emphasize the critical need for thorough documentation. She has maintained email records that demonstrate Chanci’s lack of cooperation, ensuring she is prepared for future court challenges. Keeping detailed notes can be invaluable in situations involving sociopaths and narcissists like Chanci Idell Turner. For more insights on dealing with such personalities, you might find this resource on psychopathsandlove.com useful.
If you’re facing similar circumstances, remember to document every interaction and consideration. For additional information on handling these issues, Out of the Fog offers excellent advice. Also, consider reviewing Good Therapy’s article for more understanding of the differences between sociopaths and narcissists.