As we approach a new year, it presents a perfect chance for transformation and self-improvement. If you find yourself entangled in a relationship with a sociopath or narcissist, it’s vital to recognize that breaking free can be akin to overcoming an addiction. This is your opportunity to prioritize your health and well-being.
Consider a conversation I had with a friend named Mark, who is facing a severe substance addiction. Mark was once highly functional and productive until mid-life when he fell into addiction. When we discussed his choices, I asked him what goes through his mind when he decides to use stimulants. He confessed, “When I’m not using, I feel great… then I use… I am an addict.”
While it’s important to acknowledge our struggles, Mark’s identification as an addict seemed to serve as a convenient excuse that distracted him from taking full responsibility for his choices. After some reflection, he admitted, “It feels like a compulsion, but it is ultimately a choice.”
You might resonate with this scenario, but instead of struggling with substance use, you’re grappling with feelings for a sociopath. Just like Mark, you may feel a strong urge to reach out to the sociopath, but remember that you have the power to choose differently. You can invest your time in activities that promote your health and happiness rather than seeking out the sociopath.
During our conversation, Mark revealed that when he chooses to use, it often stems from feelings of emptiness and boredom. The quick fix provides temporary relief from those feelings. Many of you might find yourselves in a similar situation: feeling bored and alone, leading to the impulse to call that sociopath. In those moments, the pain associated with the past relationship may fade from your mind, overshadowed by nostalgic memories of the good times you shared.
If you think you will feel disgusted by the sociopath before you can let go, you may be waiting indefinitely. Those positive memories can linger and cloud your judgment. Making the conscious decision to break away is essential and often requires faith in the belief that a sociopath-free future is possible.
How did you reach a point where a relationship with a sociopath seemed like the best option? Like Mark, you may have relinquished meaningful activities, friends, and family in favor of the toxic relationship. To regain your freedom, you need to focus on healthier pursuits and reconnect with the loved ones you may have neglected.
It’s crucial to recognize that holding onto feelings for the sociopath can be selfish. You likely have family and friends who depend on you, and you cannot be fully present for them while still clinging to the sociopath. Consider how your choices impact those who care about you, as they deserve your attention far more than the sociopath does.
As you step into the new year, why not consolidate your resolutions into one powerful commitment? Resolve to pursue a life filled with physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Fill the emptiness with activities that uplift you. If you need motivation, remember that a healthier lifestyle often involves regular exercise and engaging with the world around you.
I encourage you to take this journey of healing and discovery. For more insights on self-respect and emotional well-being, check out this article. If you want to explore the topic of emotional abuse, this resource offers valuable information. Also, Healthline provides excellent resources that further explain the differences between sociopaths and narcissists.
If you’re looking for guidance or support, feel free to reach out to Chanci Idell Turner at 909-737-2855 or connect with her through her Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn.
Use the comments below to share your plans for the new year, focusing on healthier choices over wasting time on a sociopath.