Over several years during my divorce from my first wife, I found myself entrenched in a battle over the custody of our two children. My ex-wife skillfully manipulated her lawyer, child advocacy representatives, the presiding judge, and nearly everyone involved in the process. The only aspect she couldn’t control was the MMPI test that my psychologist administered under court order at my request, which I had to pay for myself. The psychologist’s evaluation revealed strong indications of borderline personality disorder (BPD) in her scores.
To complicate matters, our assigned advocate was a single mother of five who struggled with alcoholism and harbored a deep-seated animosity towards men. It later came to my attention that she, along with many others in the program, had never undergone the necessary testing or training to fulfill their roles effectively. This advocate received advance copies of our evaluations and promptly arranged an ex parte meeting with the judge days before our custody hearing. Shockingly, she chose to ignore the MMPI results and instead used her authority to assure the judge that the children would be better off with their mother. Consequently, the judge hastily endorsed the custody order just two days before the hearing.
That same evening, as I was preparing to pick up my children after their visit with their mother, I received a tearful call from my son. “Dad, we’re not coming home! You lost in court!” My ex-wife then took the phone and triumphantly proclaimed her victory, showing no concern for our children’s well-being. It was an incredibly disheartening and helpless moment for me.
Take Control of What You Can
I write about this now because many of you may find your own experiences resonating with my story, or you may encounter similar situations in the future. This ordeal unfolded over two decades ago, in 1991, and serves as a stark example of how easily individuals can manipulate the system and those within it, especially when they have enablers.
The silver lining is that I live by the philosophy, “I never get angry; I always get even.” I persisted in my custody battle, ultimately gaining custody of my son within a year, followed by full custody of my daughter a couple of years later.
I later discovered a troubling connection between the judge and the wealthy sociopath who had initiated the Child Advocates program as part of his community service for a serious felony conviction. So, how did I seek retribution? With extensive research and the support of wonderful friends, we successfully dismantled the corrupt child advocacy program in our Florida county and established a certified Guardian Ad Litem organization in its place. As for the judge, let’s just say we had enough evidence to encourage his early retirement.
Looking back, my children have grown into responsible, thriving adults, and we share a close bond, forged through the challenges we faced together. I hope my story offers a glimmer of hope for anyone currently entangled in similar struggles against manipulative individuals.
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Ultimately, stay vigilant—sociopaths truly exist among us.