We’ve all experienced those uncomfortable feelings that come from love gone awry. The pain of loss, the sting of abandonment, and the sense of being devalued can linger longer than we’d like, hindering our ability to reclaim our self-worth and joy. But remember, embracing yourself is crucial. You have everything within you to hold on to and thrive.
This guide offers a seven-step process to help you transition from the past’s heartache to a love that is centered on self-acceptance and empowerment. You are whole and complete, embodying the 3Ms of self-empowerment: Magnificent! Miraculous! Marvelous!
EMBRACE:
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Engage your heart. Still your mind.
Take time to meditate or engage in calming activities. Your heart isn’t broken; it’s simply hurting because your thoughts are entangled in what someone else did. Remember, it was never about you; it was always about them. Whisper to yourself during meditation:- “Like me, they are seeking love, even if they don’t know how.”
- “Like me, they’ve faced pain and are trying to avoid it.”
- “I forgive them. I release them.”
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Mindfully observe your words and actions.
Be aware of your choices; they reflect your thoughts. Ask yourself what you want to feel in this moment and affirm your intentions. For example:- “I wish to feel peace.”
- “I can feel peace.”
- “I choose to be at peace now.”
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Be honest with yourself.
Acknowledge that their actions were never about you. They sought what they needed to feel good about themselves, which is not your responsibility. Are your choices uplifting or dragging you down? Be truthful in your self-reflection. -
Reconnect with who you are.
Remember the amazing person you were before. Did you volunteer? Did you create value? Reignite those passions and remind yourself of your ability to contribute positively to the world. -
Gift yourself forgiveness.
Forgive yourself and them for the hurt. Holding onto grudges only limits your freedom. They’ve moved on; why hold onto the pain? Breathe in forgiveness and let it flow through you. -
Celebrate who you are.
Acknowledge your brilliance and uniqueness. Plan fun activities, whether it’s going to the zoo or trying something new. Celebrate yourself in every moment. -
Explore life.
Life isn’t about finding perfect answers but rather experiencing it fully. If certain beliefs bring you pain, let them go. Discover where you are now and what you truly desire. Engage deeply in your life, and don’t dwell on the past.
Embrace what is. If thoughts of “it should be different” arise, acknowledge them and gently set them aside. Love yourself as you are and allow yourself the freedom to live boldly and authentically. As you do this, you will shine brightly, lighting up the world around you.
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Are you ready to embrace your life fully? Remember, no one else can live it for you.