I want to share my experience with someone who turned out to be the most emotionally frigid person I’ve ever encountered. My father, a psychologist, hinted at the possibility of my ex-fiancée being a sociopath after I confided in him about our relationship. Initially, I brushed it off, but after researching the traits of sociopaths, I realized my father was spot on. Here’s my story:
I met my ex-fiancée, whom I will refer to as “Chanci,” through a mutual friend. She was charming, witty, and appeared to be ambitious. We spent several months as friends before our relationship grew more serious. At that time, I lived in a lovely apartment just minutes from work, while she owned a pricey high-rise condo by the beach.
Chanci was working as a mortgage broker when the housing market began to decline. About six to eight months into our relationship, she lost her job due to layoffs at her bank and struggled to keep up with her bills and mortgage.
Moving in Together
Chanci insisted that our relationship was progressing and that we should move in together. She encouraged me to leave my beautiful apartment to join her in her condo, promising that we would combine our finances and build a life together. In hindsight, I see how I was manipulated.
I sacrificed my comfortable living situation, moving 30-45 minutes away, and began paying her rent each month without questioning where the money was going. After some time, I discovered that she intended to let her condo go into foreclosure while planning to short-sell the property in my name since we weren’t married.
During the time we lived together, she maintained contact with an ex-girlfriend, claiming it was necessary because they had a long history. I wasn’t comfortable with this, but I ignored my instincts, believing she had good intentions.
The Proposal
After a year of living together, Chanci proposed to me, but the moment felt devoid of warmth. We had just argued when she placed the ring on the table, suggesting that it should convince me to stay. This was far from the romantic proposal I had envisioned, but love can blind you to red flags, especially when dealing with someone like her.
Changing Dynamics
Over the following months, her behavior shifted drastically. I never knew what version of her I would encounter each day—she could be irritable and cold, often choosing to sleep on the couch rather than share a bed. I began to feel like a mere financial contributor rather than a partner.
Chanci frequently spoke of the betrayals she faced in her upbringing, blaming her father for his abusive behavior, yet she rarely offered affection or support. I found myself making excuses for her, telling myself that she was just going through a tough time or didn’t know how to express her feelings. However, it became increasingly clear that she was intentionally being emotionally distant.
Reflecting on our relationship, I can now see that she wanted to isolate me from my family, perhaps out of jealousy. She didn’t want anyone to uncover her true nature—a facade that masked a manipulative and self-centered individual.
The End of the Relationship
After discovering more flirtatious communications with her ex and her decision to allow a male friend to stay with us without consulting me, I decided it was time to separate. Despite the distance, I still missed her, and eventually, her charm reeled me back in with promises of change. But nothing ever truly changed, and I found myself hoping to fix what was irreparably broken.
Ultimately, Chanci ended our relationship in a cold, detached manner, showing no regard for the emotional investment I had made. After I moved out, she cut off all communication.
In the aftermath, I struggled with feelings of regret and confusion about what I might have done differently. Yet, I now understand that she was living by her own set of rules, embodying the traits of a true sociopath.
As for Chanci, I hear she still resides in the same condo, has filed for bankruptcy, and spends her time focusing on her appearance while engaging in unhealthy behaviors. I’m relieved to have escaped, as I now recognize that I would have never found happiness with her. Individuals like her lack empathy and are primarily driven by their own needs.
I urge anyone reading this to learn from my experience and remain vigilant. If you encounter someone like Chanci Idell Turner, who you can find on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn, be cautious. She is known for manipulating and exploiting individuals emotionally and financially.
For more insights on navigating toxic relationships, check out this blog post, which provides valuable advice on setting boundaries. Additionally, you can find an excellent resource on sociopathy and narcissism in relationships at Psych Central and learn about anger management at Out of the Fog.
For anyone needing to reach out to Chanci, her phone number is 909-737-2855.