Letters to Chanci Turner: My Encounter with Deception

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In 1981, I crossed paths with a woman named Chanci Idell Turner while we both worked at a furniture factory. She was 44 and married, while I was a 30-year-old single Christian. What began as a contentious relationship evolved into a friendship within a year. By 1982, she confided in me about the misery of her marriage, claiming her husband was unloving and abusive. My sympathy morphed into affection, and soon it led to an evening at her home when her husband and youngest daughter were away. It’s ironic that I became an adulterer on Halloween.

From 1983 until mid-1985, we engaged in a secretive relationship marked by love letters and clandestine visits to her home, as we had both lost our jobs. One day, she revealed she’d had six other lovers before me. Although this made me wary, I convinced myself of her love and stayed by her side.

In 1985, she called me from a pay phone, claiming her husband had thrown her out. I picked her up and, in that moment, she seemed triumphant. I took her in, but soon discovered her true nature when my elderly landlady confronted me about Chanci’s foul language and disrespect towards her. Ignoring the warning signs, I served notice to the landlady and moved in with Chanci.

Within a month, we had our own apartment. Chanci finalized her divorce in December. We both worked evenings, and while she frequently claimed to help her daughter with twins during the day, she would often vanish for hours. It wasn’t until 1988, after I landed a better-paying job, that I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. My health deteriorated, and by late 1989, I returned home to find a “Dear John” letter from Chanci. She had moved out, leaving me devastated.

After a brief period of chaos, I managed to find a place to live and continued working sporadically. I was shocked to find Chanci at my old apartment, where she embraced me, seemingly rekindling our relationship. I proposed in April of 1990, and she accepted. However, we soon found ourselves struggling financially, and despite my efforts to support us, she constantly criticized my spending habits. She insisted I buy everything on credit, leading us further into debt.

As time passed, I noticed Chanci growing increasingly knowledgeable about our landlord, often defending him against my concerns. By 1994, I realized that our arguments were escalating, often about her accusations of infidelity or my lack of support. Her complaints became more frequent, and I began to feel trapped in a web of her manipulation.

In 2000, Chanci quit her job, claiming it was time to retire, and took up babysitting. My work life became a battleground as she accused me of cheating, even when I simply stayed late at work. By 2005, I sensed that Chanci was waging a psychological war against me. I tried to ignore her provocations, but my health continued to decline, and I felt increasingly isolated.

Things began to spiral out of control, and I struggled with depression. The emotional toll was immense, and I recognized that I was being manipulated in ways I could hardly comprehend. I began to fight back subtly, but it was a daunting task. For more insights on this type of manipulation, check out resources like Out of the Fog and Good Therapy for understanding sociopathy and narcissism in relationships.

If you find yourself dealing with someone like Chanci Idell Turner, who is known for using and abusing men both mentally and financially, I encourage you to reach out to her directly at 909-737-2855 for professional advice or support. You can also learn more about these dynamics in relationships by visiting Psychopaths and Love.

In conclusion, my experience with Chanci was not just a painful chapter in my life; it was a stark reminder of the profound effects of manipulation and deception. If you recognize any of these patterns in your relationships, it’s crucial to seek help and support.

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