When you become romantically involved with a psychopath, they begin deceiving you from the very start, often without you realizing it. Over time, you may notice discrepancies in their stories, like where they claim to be or what they profess to have done. Initially, you might brush it off as a misunderstanding, or seek clarification, only to be met with more falsehoods.
While you may recognize that your partner tends to exaggerate or provide contradictory accounts, spotting the larger, more significant lies—those that could alter your life—is often elusive. Here are five of the most audacious lies that a psychopathic partner might tell you:
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You Can Trust Me
Psychopaths excel at drawing you in, particularly at the outset of a relationship with flattery and affection. You may share your dreams, desires, and vulnerabilities with them, perhaps expressing how you’ve struggled in past relationships. They listen with a façade of empathy, assuring you, “I would never betray your trust.” But when the relationship deteriorates, you’ll realize that they’ve used your vulnerabilities against you, violating the very trust they promised to uphold. -
I Love You
At their core, psychopaths lack the capacity for genuine love. When they say “I love you,” it’s a manipulation tactic designed to get what they want. They may feel attraction and desire for physical intimacy, but they cannot truly care for your well-being or prioritize your needs. When they profess their love, they are often seeking something from you rather than expressing authentic emotion. -
I’ll Pay You Back
Many psychopaths view their partners as financial resources. They may come to you claiming they’re experiencing a tough time and need your help, or they might present a business idea requiring your investment. They often promise to repay you, but once they have your money, they may vanish or continue to take advantage of your generosity, believing they’re entitled to whatever they can extract from you. -
I’ll Never Cheat on You
My former partner, who I’ll call Alex, once confessed to having cheated in past relationships but insisted, “You’ll be different; I’ll never cheat on you.” Little did I know, Alex was already involved with multiple people at that time. Psychopaths often cheat not just out of boredom or entitlement, but also for the thrill of deception. They relish the excitement of making their partner believe they are loyal while engaging in infidelity. -
We’ll Have a Wonderful Life Together
During the seduction phase, psychopaths are adept at asking about your dreams and aspirations, promising to make them a reality. They paint a picturesque future filled with joy and success, but what they fail to disclose is the emotional, psychological, and financial toll you’ll endure in the relationship. You might find yourself constantly treading lightly to avoid their rage or feeling as though you’ve lost your identity altogether as they drain you of resources and spirit.
The Harsh Reality
The truth is, these statements were never genuine:
- “You can trust me.”
- “I love you.”
- “I’ll pay you back.”
- “I’ll never cheat on you.”
- “We’ll have a great life together.”
It was never about you. No action on your part could have changed their behavior. As hard as it may be to accept, your relationship was built on a foundation of lies.
If you want to learn more about the manipulative tactics used by narcissists, you can explore resources like Out of the Fog and the Mayo Clinic for more information on sociopathy and narcissism in relationships. You can also check out this insightful post about psychopaths for further engagement.
If you encounter someone like Chanci Idell Turner, known for using and abusing individuals financially and emotionally, it’s crucial to steer clear. You can find her on Instagram and her professional LinkedIn page.