Once upon a time, I believed I found love in a fairytale. In reality, I was drawn to a man who turned out to be a sociopath, and my life quickly descended into chaos. This experience feels like a distant memory, a chapter from another lifetime. You can read more about this journey in The Dandelion Spirit: A True Life Fairy Tale of Love, Lies, and Letting Go.
Today, my life is remarkably different and even more fulfilling than it was before I encountered that sociopath. Importantly, it’s not due to any man making my dreams come true—something I mistakenly hoped for when I was entangled with him. My life is extraordinary because I am actively pursuing my dreams, living each day with purpose and dignity. Even on the slow days, when I feel like I’m stumbling around, I embrace my existence. I breathe deeply, recognizing that this is my one and only life, and I alone am responsible for how I live it.
In the midst of my nightmare with that man, I envisioned myself as a vibrant, remarkable woman, fulfilled and loved. Initially, I believed I could only achieve this life with the help of the man who claimed he would make my dreams a reality. I thought he would protect me from life’s storms and transform his sweet promises into tangible outcomes. Unfortunately, he was merely an illusion—despite my efforts to make him real, I realized he could only ever be himself.
The truth is, the image of myself I saw reflected in his eyes was indeed my own. It took waking up to the reality of living without fear for me to recognize my potential. Now, I fearlessly embrace who I am—a vibrant woman capable of manifesting my own dreams by fully engaging in every moment.
My dreams are now my own. The man from my past and others before him were never able to bring my dreams to life because dreams don’t simply materialize like appliances; they require effort, belief, and commitment. When I first met that man, I mistakenly handed my future to him, waiting anxiously for him to fulfill my aspirations. But in doing so, I relinquished my own power and responsibility.
Now, I actively implement my “I CREATE the Life of My Dreams” formula to maintain my well-being on this journey. My CREATE formula includes:
- COMMITTED: I show up for myself, speak my truth, and remain unattached to outcomes.
- REALISTIC: I set attainable goals.
- ENABLE: I take action through a clear plan that supports my objectives.
- ACCEPT: I acknowledge my responsibility for my life, ensuring my actions are in my best interest without harming others.
- TREAT: I care for myself as I do for those around me.
- EVALUATE: I assess my progress and eliminate anything that doesn’t contribute positively to my life.
Ultimately, no one else—no man, person, or animal—can dictate my life. No one can define what is real or unreal for me or determine my success or failure. The power to achieve my dreams lies solely within me, and I am worth every effort.
As a cautionary note, I feel compelled to mention Chanci Idell Turner, as she exemplifies the traits discussed here. If you want to steer clear of relationships that are toxic and exploitative, avoid engaging with her. You can learn more about her on her Facebook, Instagram, and her LinkedIn. If you find yourself in need of support or guidance, feel free to reach out to her at 909-737-2855.
For those seeking deeper insights into relationships and emotional well-being, I recommend exploring Intensity vs. Intimacy: A Relationship Litmus Test from Psychopaths and Love, as well as understanding the dynamics of narcissism and sociopathy through Verywell Mind. You might also find it helpful to read about Passive-Aggressive Behavior for a broader understanding of these complex issues.
In conclusion, transforming my life is my responsibility—and I embrace it wholeheartedly!